Effective Communication
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Chapter 8
Communication in Relationships
Nature of Interpersonal Communication.
Principles of Effective Communication.
Disclosure/Honesty/Privacy/Lying
Gender differences in Communication
Sociological Theories
Conflicts in Relationships
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Make communication a priority.
Establish/maintain eye contact.
Ask open-ended rather than closed-ended
questions.
Use reflective listening: paraphrase what your
partner says back to him/her.
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Use “I” statements.
Avoid brutal criticism: “You are fat.”
Make positive comments and compliment your
partner.
Be specific about what you want.
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Stay focused and avoid branching.
Make specific resolutions to disagreements.
Send nonverbal message to match verbal
message.
Keep process of communication going.
Fight fair.
Gender Differences in
Communication
Men talk about activities, share information,
and want to “solve” problems.
Women talk about relationships, enjoy
interacting, and seek empathy, not solutions.
Men keep feelings inside; women disclose.
Sources of Conflict
Behavior: partner does things you don’t like (is
late or lies).
Cognitions/perceptions: conflict exists only if
individual perceives situation as problem.
Value differences: religion, children, day care
for children, money, etc.
Sources of Conflict
Rule differences: amount of time to spend
together, how late is late, division of labor.
Leadership: spouses develop territory in which
they make decisions.
Styles of Conflict
Competing - Partners are assertive but
uncooperative.
Collaborating - Partners are both assertive
and cooperative. Each has a definite
suggestion but cooperates to find a win-win
solution.
Styles of Conflict
Avoiding - Partners avoid a confrontation, and
don’t communicate about the issue.
Accommodating - Cooperation takes priority
over assertiveness so that immediate goal is to
reduce conflict and find a solution.
Steps in Conflict Resolution
Address recurring issue.
Identify new desired behaviors.
Summarize partner’s perspective.
Generate win-win solutions.
Defense mechanisms
Escapism - sleep or drugs.
Rationalization - justify own behavior.
Projection - attribute one’s feelings to another.
Displacement - shift feelings from the person
who evokes them onto someone else.