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SECTION II
Module 3:
Establishing and Maintaining
Positive and Responsible
Relationships
Activity 4: Peer Relationships, Friendships, Peer
Influences and Attraction
Summing Up:
• Self-confidence and assertiveness are essential
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for maintaining positive relationships
Trust is a very important element in all
relationships
There is a need for mutual respect and honesty
in all relationships
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In any relationship, it is important to assess our
feelings and communicate them honestly
Peer relationships can have both positive and
negative dimensions
Adolescents and their parents and teachers
should interact more so that they appreciate one
another’s concerns and understand each other
better
In most situations, feelings should be recognised
rather than pretending they do not exist
Repressing them can lead to chronic frustration,
anger or depression
Need to balance our feelings
Activity 5: Relationship with Parents/Guardians
Summing Up:
• As adolescents develop a strong sense of identity and have
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strong views about issues, they may not always agree with
their parents and other adults around them
This can lead to conflict between adolescents and their
parents
Adolescents should recognize that it is not necessary to
agree with their parents or anyone else on everything.
However, they must learn to express their thoughts and
feelings (communicate) in a clear, honest and respectful
manner without putting down either themselves or the
other person/s.
Even if experiences of parents and adolescents are
different, it can be interesting to know through
discussions, what has shaped the different views.
Activity 6: Communicating Effectively
Summing Up:
• Everyone likes to be accepted by people who are important
to them
• Some of us may think that if we agree with everything that
our family, friends and teachers say, we will be liked by
them but this may not always be true
• A true friend and well-wisher will never pressurize us into
doing something that we do not believe in
• If we strongly believe in something and stand up for it,
people are more likely to like and respect us in the long
run
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As we start thinking independently, it is not
possible to be in complete agreement on every issue
and there is nothing wrong with it as long as we are
willing to hear the other person’s view point and
express our own views clearly
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There are many ways of communicating our
viewpoints that have been broadly categorized
into passive, aggressive and assertive styles of
communication
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The assertive style of communication is the
most healthy and positive style of
communication that all of us should aspire to
achieve
Some of the key elements of effective
communication include:
•Respect:
We should respect others and admire good
qualities in others. It is necessary to treat
others politely. People have to deserve respect
through their good qualities and behaviour.
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Listening:
A good communicator must listen to others
without interrupting and should respect
others while replying. You cannot be an
active listener if you keep talking. Be sure to
stop talking when others are talking.
• Non verbal communication or body language:
This includes tone of voice, smiling, gesturing,
body postures, touch and distance with the
person. Body language is easy to read but also
easy to misinterpret. Make eye contact and
match your facial expression with what you
are saying.
Different Styles of Communication
Passive
Aggressive
Disrespectful to oneself
Disrespectful to others.
Undervaluing personal needs,
desires, feelings, knowledge, etc.
Overvaluing personal
needs, feelings, rights,
etc.
Exercising one’s
personal needs, rights,
etc.
Demanding.
Always placing others’ interest
first, at the expense of oneself.
Remaining inactive in situations
where personal rights, needs and
feelings are ignored.
Yielding always to pressure against
one’s wishes.
Suffering silently.
Blaming oneself for negative things
in life.
Listening only to others.
Being impolite
and rude
Blaming others for negative
happenings.
Only talking and not listening.
Assertive
Respectful to oneself as well as
others.
Valuing appropriately personal
needs, desires, feelings, etc.
Considering one’s own self as well
as others’ interests.
Being confident and polite.
Talking as well as listening.
Expressing negative as well as
positive feelings.
Being both considerate as well as
demanding.
Standing up for one’s rights
without domination of others