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Communication
Relationships
Think about it…………….
“Be a good listener. Your ears will
never get you in trouble”.
~ Frank Tyger
Thoughts: Agree or Disagree
Question: If your ears won’t get you in trouble,
what will? Why?
Communication:
The process of creating and sending messages
and of receiving and evaluation messages form
others
Communication either helps a relationship GROW
or DIMINISH.
Verbal communication: spoken words
Non-verbal communication: without words, facial
expressions, gestures, posture, etc.
Verbal Communication
One fourth of a person’s day is spent VERBALLY
Communicating.
Throughout out the day, a person will send 100 to
300 messages—hoping that the message is
decoded similar to the way it was encoded.
On average, a teen’s vocabulary is made up of
as 10,000-12,000 words and 20,000-25,000 for a
college graduate.
Verbal Communication
Many people FEAR verbal communication.
Glossophobia is fear of public speaking. It is
believed to be the single most common phobia,
affecting as much as 75% of all people.
When ranked among fears, it generally is the
number one fear, surpassing even the fear of
death.
What makes speaking in front of people so
scary?
Styles of Communication
People can verbally communicate using
different styles. There are four basic styles
typically used in conversations. The styles are
• Passive
• Aggressive
• Passive Aggressive
• Assertive
Passive Communication
Passive Communication is a style in which
individuals communicate:
avoiding expressing opinions or feelings
not responding
allowing grievances and annoyances to build
having an outburst when they reach limit
More Passive
Passive communicators will often:
fail to assert for themselves
allow others to deliberately or inadvertently infringe on rights
fail to express their feelings, needs, or opinions
tend to speak softly or apologetically
exhibit poor eye contact and slumped body posture
The impact of a pattern of passive communication leaves one
to feel anxious, depressed, resentful, confused
Passive Thoughts
A passive communicator will say, believe, or
behave like:
“I’m unable to stand up for my rights.”
“I don’t know what my rights are.”
“I get stepped on by everyone.”
“I’m weak and unable to take care of
myself.”
“People never consider my feelings.”
Aggressive Communication
AGGRESSIVE is a style in which individuals
communicate:
Abruptly expressing their opinions and needs even
if it violates others
Presenting that their needs are more important
than anyone else’s needs
Using verbal abusive to intimidate or ensure they
get their way
More Aggressive
Aggressive communicators will often:
try to dominate others
use humiliation to control others
criticize, blame, or attack others
be very impulsive
have low frustration tolerance
speak loud, demanding, and overbearing
act threateningly and rudely
not listen well
interrupt frequently
use “you” statements
Aggressive Communication
The impact of a pattern of aggressive
communication is that these individuals:
become alienated from others
alienate others
generate fear and hatred in others
always blame others instead of owning their
issues, and thus are unable to mature
Impact of Aggressive
The aggressive communicator will say, believe, or
behave like:
“I’m superior and right and you’re inferior and wrong.”
“I’m loud, bossy and pushy.”
“I can dominate and intimidate you.”
“I can violate your rights.”
“I’ll get my way no matter what.”
“You’re not worth anything.”
“It’s all your fault.”
“I react instantly.”
“I’m entitled.”
“You owe me.”
“I own you.”
Passive Aggressive
PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE COMMUNICATION is a style
in which individuals communicate:
Both aggressive and passive communication
Passively that they do not express themselves
when not in agreement
Aggressively that they then go behind the other
person’s back and say mean things or even do
mean things out of anger.
Pretend it is “fine” but later actions show not
More on Passive Aggressive
Passive-Aggressive communicators will often:
mutter to themselves rather than confront
have difficulty acknowledging their anger
use facial expressions that don't match how they feel
use sarcasm
deny there is a problem
appear cooperative
use subtle sabotage to get even
More Passive Aggressive
The impact of a pattern of passive-aggressive
communication is that these individuals:
become alienated from those around them
remain stuck in a position of powerlessness
discharge resentment while real issues are
never addressed so they can't mature
The passive-aggressive communicator will say,
believe, or behave like:
I’m weak and resentful, so I sabotage, frustrate,
and disrupt.”
I’m powerless to deal with you head on so I must
use guerilla warfare.”
I will appear cooperative but I’m not.”
Assertive Communication
ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION is a style in which
individuals communicate:
Clearly by stating their opinions and feelings
Firmly advocate for their rights and needs
Do not violate the rights of others
Assertive
Assertive communicators will:
state needs and wants clearly, appropriately, and
respectfully
express feelings clearly, appropriately, and respectfully
use “I” statements
communicate respect for others
listen well without interrupting
feel in control of self and stand up for their rights
have good eye contact
speak in a calm and clear tone of voice
have a relaxed body posture
feel connected to others, component and in control
Assertive
The impact of a pattern of assertive communication is that
these individuals:
feel connected to others
feel in control of their lives
are able to mature because they address issues and
problems as they arise
create a respectful environment for others to grow and
mature
Assertive
The assertive communicator will say, believe, or behave in
a way that says:
“We are equally entitled to express ourselves respectfully
to one another.”
I am confident about who I am.”
“I realize I have choices in my life and I consider my
options.”
“I speak clearly, honestly, and to the point.”
“I can’t control others but I can control myself.”
“I place a high priority on having my rights respected.”
“I am responsible for getting my needs met in a respectful
manner.”
“I respect the rights of others.”
“I’m 100% responsible for my own happiness.”
Questions to Answer:
What communication style do you use?
Is there more than one style of communication
you use?
What style of communication does your family
mainly use?
Situation: Your friend asks you to go to a movie
you do not want to see. Choose two styles and
respond.
Non Verbal Communication
Why is non verbal so important?
It often times make communication stronger
because it does the following:
It reinforces a verbal message
It can replace a verbal message
It can contradict the verbal message
Think about the three statements above. Give
examples of HOW it does all of the above
Non Verbal Communication
Non verbal communication takes on many forms.
What are ways people non verbally
communicate?
Facial Expression—show if you are interested
and understand, show emotions
Eye Contact—invites interaction, signals turn
taking in conversations
Paralinguistic—vocal qualities such as pitch,
tone, rate, and fluency impact a
conversation.
Say the following
Accentuate the BOLDFACE word in each
sentence. How does the meaning change?
I didn’t say she stole money
I didn’t say she stole money.
I didn’t say she stole money.
I didn’t say she stole money.
I didn’t say she stole money.
I didn’t say she stole money.
More Non Verbal
Body Gestures and Body Movements—the way
you move your body—crossing arms, fidgeting
Touching---comforts a person during a difficult
time or confirms your support
Physical Environment—how does the
environment impact your conversation
Appearance—the way you dress or someone
else is dressed
Silence—can be used as positive or negative
More Non verbal
Personal Space and Distance—the space we
create around ourselves to feel comfortable
Intimate Space—allow closeness, skin contact
out to about 18 inches—friends, partners
Personal Distance—18 inches to 4 feet—
friendly conversation or heated argument
Social Distance—4 fee to 12 feet—social
interactions that are impersonal
Public Distance—12 feet and beyond—talking
in front of strangers
Cultural Differences
Non verbal cues mean different things in different
cultures.
For example, Americans do not always value
silence. It is looked at as negative.
Many Asian Cultures view silence as a sign of
wisdom.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/17/theglobal-guide-to-hand-_n_4956860.html
Technology
More than thirty million emails are exchanged on
a daily basis in North America.
People use technology as a form of
communication.
What are benefits of communicating with
technology?
What are some negative aspects of using
technology as communication?
Gender Differences
Do men and women communicate differently?
Experts do say that men and women approach
communication differently. Examples of
differences include:
Men’s language is often factual and action driven
Women’s language is emotional and evaluative
Men often talk in conversations rather than listen
Women often listen and share feelings
Men speak in monotone voices
Women use a variety of tones and voices
What differences do you notice?