Transcript Violence in Dating for blog

Dating
Violence
All Forms of Abuse are Harmful
 Abuse
is the physical, mental, emotional,
or sexual mistreatment of another.
Indicators that a Dating
Relationship May Be Abusive
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Tries to pressure the other into sexual activity
Tries to make the relationship serious or
exclusive right away.
Acts jealous or possessive
Tries to control the other’s behavior
Yells, swears, emotionally attacks the other
Threatens the other with physical violence
Forms of Abuse
 Physical-intentionally
bodily harm or injury
 Emotional-attacking
another’s persons
to another person.
sense of worth.
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Verbal: using words to mistreat or injure
another person.
Forms of Abuse
 Sexual-sexual
contact that is forced upon
someone against their own will.
 Stalking-repeatedly
following, harassing,
or threatening an individual.
Protecting Yourself From
Abusive Relationships
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Hang out with others who share your
values and treat you with respect.
Know your own limits with regard to
sexual activity and communicate those
limits clearly to anyone you date.
Avoid drugs and alcohol
Know the warning signs of an abusive
relationship.
Date Rape
When
one person in a dating
relationship forces the other
person to take part in sexual
intercourse.
Acquaintance rape
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attacker is someone the
victim know casually or
considers a friend.
Physical, Emotional, Social
Damages from rape
 Physical:
scratches, bruises, chronic pain,
headaches, or stomach problems. At risk
for STDs and pregnancy.
 Social:
distrust in others, anxiety,
withdrawal from friends
 Emotional:
depression, guilt, post
traumatic stress
Most common mistakes made:
A
teenage girl voluntarily agreeing
to go to the house, apartment, or
car of a young man she has known
for less than 24 hours.
 The
impairment of the victim by
drugs or alcohol.
Date Rape Drugs
There are at least three date rape
drugs.
 GHB
(gamma hydroxybutyric acid)
 Rohypnol (flunitrazepam)
 Ketamine (ketamine hydrochloride)
Date Rape Drugs
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Because of the effect of these drugs, victims
may be physically helpless, unable to refuse
sex, and cannot remember what happened.
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The drugs often have no color, smell, or
taste.
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They are easily added to flavored drinks
without the victim’s knowledge.
What do the drugs look like?
 GHB
– liquid with no odor or color, white
powder, and pill.
 Rohypnol
– pill that dissolves in liquids
(new ones turn blue in liquid)
 Ketamine
– white powder
What effects do these drugs
have on the body?
 They
can affect you quickly.
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length of time that the effects
last varies depending on how
much of the drug is taken.
 Alcohol
effects.
can worsen the drug’s
Is alcohol a date rape drug?
 Alcohol
is a drug that can put a person at risk for
unwanted or risky sexual activity.
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It is harder to think clearly and evaluate a potentially
dangerous situation.
It’s harder to resist sexual or physical assault.
Drinking too much alcohol can also cause black-outs
and memory loss.
If a victim of sexual assault drank alcohol, they are not
at fault for being assaulted.
Safety Tips
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If you are going on a
date find out as much
as you can about the
person.
If you don’t know your
date very well, consider
double-dating.
Know the dating plans
and tell someone.
Don’t hesitate to be
assertive when you say
NO.
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Be aware that alcohol
decreases your ability
to react and impairs
your judgment.
If attending a party, do
not leave with a guy
you don’t know very
well.
Avoid out-of-the way
places or secluded
areas.
Listen to your instincts!
How can I protect myself from
being a victim?
 Don’t’
accept drinks from other people.
 Open containers yourself.
 Keep your drink with you at all times, even
when you go to the bathroom.
 Don’t share drinks.
 Don’t drink from punch bowls, etc.
 Don’t drink anything that tastes funny.
(GHB may taste salty)
 Have a friend that can “watch your
back.”
If you think that you have
been raped:
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Go to the police station or hospital right away.
Get a urine test asap. The drugs leave your system
quickly. Rohypnol: 72 hours GHB: 12 hours
Don’t urinate before getting help.
Don’t douche, bathe, or change clothes before
getting help. You may disturb evidence.
Call a crisis center or hotline to talk to a counselor.
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1 -800-656-HOPE
Help for Survivors
 Seek
professional help
 Counselors can offer one-on-one sessions
or support groups
 Talk with parents, trusted adults, rape crisis
centers,