Transcript Domestic Violence - Tenafly Public Schools

Domestic Violence
What is it?
• Is a ____________ __________of abusive
behavior used by one person in a
relationship to gain and/or maintain
___________ and control over another.
• This includes dating, partner, spouse and
elder abuse. As well as abuse between
present or former household member.
Domestic Violence usually follows a
pattern…
1. __________ – Tension builds
2. __________ – abuse erupts
3. __________ – period of calm, denial or
apology
But then the cycle ________…
Types of abuse…
• _________ &
Verbal
• Threats &
Intimidation
• Isolation
• __________
• _________
• __________
Emotional & Verbal
• Survivors recount stories of put-downs,
public _____________, _______________, mind games and manipulation
by their partners.
• ___________ abuse leaves the deepest
scars…
Isolation
• EXTEMELY _____________
• Insist on ____ seeing friends and family
• High ____________
• Loss of job
Sexual
Any non-consensual sexual act or behavior
• ________ Sex
• Unwanted __________
• Sexual degradation
• Violence targeted at the ________ area
Threats and Intimidation
If you leave I will…
• ________ you! (threat of violence)
• I will _________ myself! (threat of suicide)
• You will never see your ______ again!
(threat of taking away the children)
Physical
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Pinching
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Grabbing
__________
Scratching
__________
Using weapons
Throwing objects at
the victim
• Restraint
• Hair Pulling
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Strangulation
__________
Shoving
Slapping
__________
Punching
__________
Economical
• Taking car keys or __________ away
• Forbidding the victim from having a
__________
• Controlling all of the finances, leaving the
victim with ____ access to resources
CHARACTERISTICS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
CHARACTERISTICS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
You might be in an abusive
relationship if he/she…
• Is __________ or __________ toward you.
• Tries to control you by being very __________ or
demanding.
• Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social
contacts and friendships. Is violent and / or loses his or
her temper quickly.
• Pressures you __________, demands sexual activities
you are not comfortable with.
• __________ drugs or alcohol.
• Claims you are responsible for his or her __________
state.
• Blames __________ when he or she mistreats you.
• Has a history of bad __________.
• Your family and friends have __________ you
about the person or told you that they are
concerned for your safety or emotional well
being.
• You frequently worry about how he or she will
react to things you say or do.
• Makes " __________ " that shame, humiliate,
demean or embarrass you, weather privately or
around family and friends.
• Your partner grew up __________ an abusive
parental relationship, and/or was abused as a
child.
• Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame,
fear or loss of control.
• Both parties in abusive relationships may
develop or progress in drug or alcohol
dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope
with the pain.
• You leave and then return to your partner
repeatedly, against the advice of your friends,
family and loved ones.
• You have trouble ending the relationship, even
though you know inside it's the right thing to do.
Healthy Relationship
• __________
• Independence
• Accepts
limitations/flaws
• Open communication
• Partners retain
sense of self
• Sharing desires and
feelings
• Enhances personal
qualities
• Allows personal change
and growth
• __________
• Based on _________
• __________
• Encourage self-care
• Risks vulnerability
Unhealthy Relationship
• __________
• Overly dependent
• __________
• Deceitfulness
• Uses denial and
avoidance
• Partners lose
identity
• Brings out the
"worst"
• Promotes stagnancy
• __________
• Based on need
• Fears intimacy
• Perfectionist
• __________
Domestic Violence & Children
• They exhibit " _____________________ " symptoms even
as infants.
• They may exhibit "general aggressiveness" or violence to
siblings or the "victim parent" in ways that emulate the
abusive parent.
• They often suffer from ________ self-esteem.
• They often suffer poor _________.
• They may have poor impulse control.
• They often experience academic problems.
• They, along with their mothers, comprise nearly ____% of
the homeless population in the U.S.
• They are more often abducted by the abuser
parent than other children.
• They may have a fear and distrust of close
relationships.
• They experience confusion over correct behavior.
• They experience psychosomatic complaints, i.e.,
stomachaches, headaches, stuttering, anxiety,
fear, etc.
• They experience “_______ terrors" (waking up
screaming in the night).
• They may wet the bed.
• They are likely to __________ learned
behaviors.
• They blame themselves for the violence or the inability to
stop it and protect the victim parent.
• They often experience PTSD (post-traumatic stress
disorder).
• They are more likely to be victim of child physical and
sexual abuse, most often by the abuser parent and less
often by the victim.
• They are four times as likely to be arrested eventually.
• They are more likely to abuse alcohol and drugs.
• They are more likely to engage in antisocial behavior.
• They are more likely to commit crime against other
persons and sexual assaults.