Transcript Relationship notes

Relationships/Communication Notes
Human Behavior
Relationships:
 Connections with other people
 We need relationships.
 Positive/healthy relationships serve a significant function in
our lives:
 Meet emotional needs
 Enrich life
 Help us get things done
Types of relationships
 Friends
 Co-workers
 Parent-Child
 Teacher-Student
 Siblings
 Significant others
 Etc.
Acquaintance:
 People you know but aren’t particularly close to.
 Example: A friend in class that you don’t usually hang out with
outside of school
Codependent
 A dependency on people - on their moods, behavior,
sickness, well-being, and their love.
What makes a healthy relationship?
 Mutuality: both people contribute
 Trust: belief that others will not reject, betray or hurt you
 Self-disclosure: Willingness to tell someone personal
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things about yourself
Rapport: a feeling of ease and harmony with another
person
Empathy: When you have the ability to put yourself in
another person’s position
Shared Interests: shared interests form a strong base for
building a relationship
Unhealthy=Exploitation: Using another person unfairly
for personal benefit
The Relationship Wheel
 Compares the building of
relationships to a wheel
 Four spokes signify the four
steps of relationship
building
 Rapport, Self-Revelation,
Mutual Dependency, Need
Fulfillment
Rapport
 Feeling of ease with you are
with someone
 Leads to more interaction
between two people
 Then you begin to relax
your guard
Self-Revelation
 As people feel more at ease, they are more likely to talk
about feelings, experiences, and attitudes
Mutual Dependency
 Learn each other’s habits
and develop habits to
respond to your partner
 Depend and rely on each
other
Needs Fulfillment
 Getting respect, confidence
and love/affection from the
relationship
 If you both fulfill each
others needs, the
relationship grows
Going backwards
 The wheel can also move in the opposite direction,
causing the destruction of the relationship
 Sometimes the rapport you feel with someone leads
to self-revelation that causes arguments or bad
feelings. This is likely to cause less self-revelation. In
turn, you rapport will decrease and fewer of your
needs will be met.
Communication
Styles of Communication
 Aggressive person: (write 2)
 Passionately expresses opinions and feelings
 Values self above others
 Hurts others to avoid hurting self
 Speaks loudly and abusively
 Doesn’t listen to others
 Stands up for rights at the expense of others
Styles of Communication
 Assertive person:
 Expresses opinions and feelings directly, honestly and
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Speak for self
Values self equal to others
Doesn’t hurt self or others
Listens to others
Stands up for rights without violating someone else
Styles of Communication
 Passive person:
 Does not express opinions and feelings directly or honestly
 Says what they think others want to hear
 Values others before self
 Belittles self
 Gives up rights in favor of someone else’s
Non-verbal Communication
 Communication without words
 Examples:
 Expressions
 Gestures
 Posture
 Body language
Listening skills
 Good listeners build strong
relationships
 Passive listening: Listener puts aside
personal judgments, just listens with little
feedback.
 Active listening:. Listener makes
comments, give opinion and feedback.