Transcript Intimacy Builders

In Love for Life
Building or Rebuilding a Great Marriage
Mike Mazzalongo
#7 – Why Christians Divorce
Avoiding Divorce…
1. Understand what divorce is.
Gen. 2:24-25
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his
mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall
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become one flesh. And the man and his wife were
both naked and were not ashamed.
Matt. 19:9
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except
for immorality, and marries another woman commits
adultery.”
Divorce = Put Away / Loose / Untie
Divorce begins in the heart…
…ends in court.
Divorce Problem:
Glued to - Another Person
- Work, Hobbies
- Self (Independence)
Divorce Problem:
Unglued by - Sin
- Family
- Ambition
Avoiding Divorce…
1. Understand what divorce is.
2. Know what God thinks.
Mal. 2:16
16 For I hate divorce,” says the LORD, the God of Israel,
“and him who covers his garment with wrong,” says the
LORD of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do
not deal treacherously.”
Matt. 19:6
6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What
therefore God has joined together, let no man
separate.”
Heb. 13:4
4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and
the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and
adulterers God will judge.
Matt. 19:9
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except
for immorality, and marries another woman commits
adultery.”
I Cor. 7:15
15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the
brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases,
but God has called us to peace.
Avoiding Divorce…
1. Understand what divorce is.
2. Know what God thinks.
3. Know how to keep the bond strong.
Strengthening the bond requires:
A. Complete Honesty
Strengthening the bond requires:
A. Complete Honesty
B. Complete Fidelity
Strengthening the bond requires:
A. Complete Honesty
B. Complete Fidelity
C. Complete Submission
Prov. 31:30
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman
who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
Prov. 12:4
4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she
who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.
Josh. 24:15
15 If it is disagreeable in your sight to serve the LORD, choose for
yourselves today whom you will serve: whether the gods which your
fathers served which were beyond the River, or the gods of the
Amorites in whose land you are living; but as for me and my house,
we will serve the LORD.”
Eph. 5:25
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the
church and gave Himself up for her,
Strengthening the bond requires:
A. Complete Honesty
B. Complete Fidelity
C. Complete Submission
D. Develop Spiritual Intimacy
Intimacy Roadblocks:
• Hectic schedules
Intimacy Roadblocks:
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Hectic schedules
• Poor communication
Intimacy Roadblocks:
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Hectic schedules
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Poor communication
• Unresolved issues
Intimacy Roadblocks:
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Hectic schedules
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Poor communication
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Unresolved issues
• Spiritual inferiority
Intimacy Roadblocks:
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Hectic schedules
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Poor communication
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Unresolved issues
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Spiritual inferiority
• Lack of spiritual experience
Intimacy Builders:
• Unconditional commitment
Intimacy Builders:
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Unconditional commitment
• Caring atmosphere
Intimacy Builders:
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Unconditional commitment
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Caring atmosphere
• Honest communication
Intimacy Builders:
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Unconditional commitment
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Caring atmosphere
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Honest communication
• Modelling
Intimacy Builders:
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Unconditional commitment
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Caring atmosphere
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Honest communication
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Modelling
• Understanding
Intimacy Builders:
• Active Listening
Intimacy Builders:
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Active Listening
• Time Together
Intimacy Builders:
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Active Listening
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Time Together
• Check-in Time
Intimacy Builders:
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Active Listening
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Time Together
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Check-in Time
• Bonding Times
We tie the knot at the wedding
We tighten the knot by developing spiritual intimacy.
Divorce – Proofing Your Marriage
• Watch for danger signs.
Divorce – Proofing Your Marriage
• Watch for danger signs.
• Understand that it is wrong.
Divorce – Proofing Your Marriage
• Watch for danger signs.
• Understand that it is wrong.
• Work at keeping the bond strong.
While we are married, it’s never too late to avoid
Divorce!