Transcript Breaking The Cycle - Alabama Cooperative Extension System

Breaking The Cycle
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After realizing there are too many arguments, you
must break the cycle.
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There are two points of view, yours and your parents’.
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Ineffective Communication
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Independence versus Dependence
Understanding why the conflict occurs will help you
to break the cycle of continuous fighting.
Style of Communication
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Starting the conversation or request
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Things to notice during the arguments:
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Criticism
Defensiveness
Contempt
Ignoring
Notice the patterns
What Can I Do?
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While you can’t make your parents change their
behaviors, you do have the power to change your
behaviors
Decreasing the number of arguments.
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Avoid criticizing, being defensive to, being rude to, or
ignoring your parents.
Self timeouts
Talking calmly and respectfully, Listen, and Be honest
Compromise
What Can I Do? Cont.
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After the argument
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Apologize
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Make-up
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Do something fun together; laugh together
Families Are Safe
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Disagreements can be Healthy
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Disagreements teach Social Skills
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Negotiation
Listening and hearing other’s perspectives
Compromising
Disagreements in the family
Disagreements can be healthy, but continuous
fighting is NOT.
It is now time
to engage in
the Activities
Wrap-up
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What was the importance of today’s session?
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What do negative patterns in fighting look like?
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How can you Repair your relationship after an
argument?
What have you learned today and how can this be
applied in your own home?