Transcript Fathers Direct Conference 5th April 2005: NODS (Not Only

Fathers Direct Conference
5th April 2005:
NODS
(Not Only Dads Support)
RODA
(Relatives Of Drug Abusers)
Presentation by;
Eddie Concannon
and
Elaine Whitnall
Feelings and Emotions
 Denial.
 Guilt, shame, self blame.
 Feeling helpless.
 Stress.
 Anger.
 Fear for the future.
 Isolation.
Family Dynamics
 Breakdowns and splits.
 Relationships with other family, friends and
wider community.
 Restrictions on other siblings.
 Constant stress.
 Burnout.
 Affects work/loss of job.
 Mental illness.
Men’s Coping Mechanisms:
 Anger, denial, blame.
 Take a back seat.
 Try not to get involved by leaving mum to
deal with.
 Anger/frustration/anger.
 Looks for all the answers.
 Medication from G.P. For stress.
 Seeks support.
Female Coping Mechanisms.
 A need to understand.
 Overcome blame an feelings of ‘where did
we go wrong’ quicker.
 A need to ‘FIX IT’.
 Looks for advice and information.
 Accesses support.
 Willingness to talk to others.
Step Fathers.
 Feelings of isolation.
 Partner not involving him in decisions.
 Stress on relationship.
 Anger and frustration against drug using
step-child.
Grandparents:
 Isolation.
 Financial implications.
 Child minding.
 Stress.
 Lack of support and understanding.
 Become primary carer.
SYPADS
South Yorkshire Parents And
Drugs Support.
South Yorkshire Drugs Helpline
0114 2788880
01709 371222
RODA:
NODS
Space 2
Bereavement
Group
Home Visits
Education
Prevention
Support
Group
Telephone: 0114 231 4443
Email:[email protected]