Transcript Interpersonal Communication and Relationships

Vocabulary check
 You must be able to communicate with a relational
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partner and vice versa.
Relationships are built on communication (e.g.,
establishing relational closeness through nonverbals).
You can’t NOT communicate (i.e., you’re always
communicating).
Romantic relationships are salient to interpersonal
communication.
Some would define interpersonal communication as
communication between a dyad.
Overview
 Different definitions of IPC
 Situational
 Developmental
 Common Misconceptions of IPC
 Mindfulness
 What is it?
 Achieving mindfulness
 Mindfulness Paper
 Due a week from today!
Take Away Points
 What are the two different perspectives on how
interpersonal communication (IPC) should be defined?
 *Note, you don’t need to know people’s names
 What aspects are considered from each approach?
 What are common misconceptions of IPC?
 Be able to identify examples (e.g., True or False: The best way
to work out any problem in a relationship is to talk about it)
 From the reading: what are the four ways of thinking about
relationships? What is the link between relationships and
communication?
 Concept of mindful vs. mindless
 5 Different ways to become mindful
By the situational approach, IPC is
defined by the number of people.
The developmental approach says it’s
about the quality of communication.
1. Miller & Steinberg define quality as
personal/impersonal communication.
Impersonal…………………………………..………..….Interpersonal
1. Miller & Steinberg define quality as
personal/impersonal communication.
Cultural…………….…..Sociological…..……….....Psychological
2. Buber defines quality as the
humanity of the communication.
I – It ………..……………………………………….. I - Thou
Common Misconceptions of IPC
 Communication is reversible
 Communication solves all problems
 More communication is better
 Successful communication = complete understanding
 Knowledge of communication is inherent
Take Away Points
 What are the two different perspectives on how
interpersonal communication (IPC) should be defined?
 *Note, you don’t need to know people’s names
 What aspects are considered from each approach?
 What are common misconceptions of IPC?
 Be able to identify examples (e.g., True or False: The best way
to work out any problem in a relationship is to talk about it)
 From the reading: what are the four ways of thinking about
relationships? What is the link between relationships and
communication?
 Concept of mindful vs. mindless
 5 Different ways to become mindful
YouTube Clip
 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ahg6qcgoay4
Stand up
 Stand on one foot
 Put hands on your head
Also, your first paper assignment (yay!)
Langer’s Mindful vs. Mindless
 Mindful: State of “alert and lively awareness”
 Active information processing
 “Break out” of your script
 Mindless: State of reduced attention
Five Ways to Become Mindful
 Novel situations
 External factors
 Scripted behavior that suddenly changes or requires
more effort
 Unexpected outcome
 Multiple scripts in conflict
How can you become mindful?
Discussion Question
 The reading suggests that we all partake in mindless
interaction when communicating with others because
we use predetermined perceptions about the social
world. Why do you think we all utilize these fixed
ideas when interacting with someone for the first
time? Do you believe that our past experiences are
good indicators for how our future experiences will go
or should we try and consciously push aside our
preconceived notions and start fresh?
USU has started a new initiative…
 Make USU Campus more mindful
 They loved the compliment guys at Purdue and felt that they
exemplified the spirit of “mindfulness”
 They have hired you to come up with an idea, to be
implemented on USU’s campus that will make college
students more mindful in a positive way
 Get in groups of 3/4
 You have 3 minutes to brainstorm
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What do you want them to become mindful of?
Which of the 5 different ways to become mindful will you use?
How will you do it?
What does this have to do with communication?
 One person needs to write down the components of your idea
to turn them in to Lisa
Paper Assignment
 Task: Make yourself and/or another person more
mindful in a positive way
 Paper: Description and assessment of that process
 Full Description of the paper on Canvas
 Do you know how to get to and submit the paper on
Canvas?
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Rubric is also on Canvas
Take Away Points
 What are the two different perspectives on how
interpersonal communication (IPC) should be defined?
 *Note, you don’t need to know people’s names
 What aspects are considered from each approach?
 What are common misconceptions of IPC?
 Be able to identify examples (e.g., True or False: The best way
to work out any problem in a relationship is to talk about it)
 From the reading: what are the four ways of thinking about
relationships? What is the link between relationships and
communication?
 Concept of mindful vs. mindless
 5 Different ways to become mindful