Transcript Relationships - Beppe Robiati

Do men and women
understand each other?
The art of communication
Non-verbal
communication
• Immediate effect
• Universal use
• Facial gestures
– Smiles
– Eyes
– Looks
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Posture
Distance from others
Physical contact
Eye contact
How we shake hands
Communication styles
Women
Men
• Intimacy is essential
within a friendship
• Intimacy is an optional!
• Discussing a problem
lightens the load –
even if no solution is
found
• Discussing a problem
means reliving it – this
is avoided unless a
solution can be found
Talk to
create relationships
…women confide
Talk to
share opinions
…men confer
Spiritual communication
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Common language
Higher level
Universal
Language of feelings and
desires
– Happiness, fear, sadness, etc.
• No opinions
– therefore no judgement
A common Faith
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Basis for our everyday values
Share the same life goals
Can save us in times of crisis
Creates a lifetime project
Encourages activity & service
– Within the couple
– Toward society
• Solid foundation for the family
No preconceptions
See the person for
who they are…
not the image you’ve
created of them
Being positive
• See things and
people in their
entirety
• ‘Positum’ (Latin)
means ‘whole’
Who are we?
• You can only know others
once you know yourself
(strengths, needs,
weaknesses, motivations,
etc.)
• Before choosing a partner,
be sure you’re not fulfilling a
need or weakness
Getting to know
a person
• Shallow knowledge
– Have fun together
• Deeper understanding
– Observe in times of difficulty
• Travel together
• Do they take responsibility
for their actions?
– Or blame others
• Beware of spoilt individuals
– They are the centre of their
worlds and always will be
• Family relationships
– Showing respect important
• Respect for others
The faculty of belief
• Can influence our whole
life
• Ability to be ‘a self-fulfilling
prophecy’
• Positive or negative effect
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Health
Interpersonal relations
Lifestyle
Optimism/pessimism
The faculty of faith
• Gives us the ability to
achieve high goals
• Power of transformation
• Guides us to the right
path
• Helps our inner
development
• Fulfil our ultimate goal
• Sustains us in times of
difficulty
The faculty of energy
• Spiritual energy is limitless
• Capacity increases with use
• Spiritual energy does not
diminish
• Memory is an example of
this capacity
The rules of consultation
The first rule is to identify the
problem precisely
To limit the scope of the
problem
Never interrupt the other
person while he is talking
Not to reply to an accusation
with another accusation
To choose the right time and
place for a discussion
To mantain a margin of respect
To avoid talking about the past
To avoid mentioning the other
person’s weak points
To consider the discussion to
be the result of mutual
behaviour
Thank you
for understanding me!