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Communication and Intimacy
Chapter 4
Why Study Communication in a
marriage and relationships class?
Because:
Good communication is related to good
relationships
and
bad communication is related to bad
relationships.
Chapter Overview
I. Introductory “Quiz”
II. Thought for the Week
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
IV. Communication in Marriage
I. Introductory Quiz
1. Men want conversation,
emotional expression and selfdisclosure.
False
2. Men and women have their own
dialects when speaking.
True
3. Men’s social “talk” is
often intended to establish
dominance.
True
4. People send subtle verbal
and nonverbal messages to
each other, no matter what
they say or do, even when they
aren’t consciously trying to.
True
5. If the message is not being
understood, it’s usually the
listener’s fault.
False
6. The only way to know
whether the message you sent
is what was received is to ask
the other person what he or
she heard.
True
7. Listeners believe body language
more than verbal language.
True
8. Mixed messages come
from poor communication
skills, not a reluctance to be
direct or honest.
False
9. The more a man keeps marital
problems from his wife, the greater
the wife’s marital satisfaction.
False
10. Great sex, financial security,
and quality leisure time can overcome
poor communication in a marriage.
False
11. In order to improve a
relationship, one must be
willing to risk losing it.
True
12. Interrupting a speaker
means a person is listening
attentively to what the
speaker has to say.
False
13. The goal of questions
should be to better
understand the other person.
True
14. Spouses commonly
perceive their partner’s
deepest inner feelings
without having to be told.
False
15. Having two assertive
people in a relationship is
not recommended.
False
II. Thought for the Week:
Mind reading and wand
waving are not offered in
any college catalogue.
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
Some Metaphors
Draw a House
Communication Channels
Noise
Consider the Following
The “I feel” Statement
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
Some Metaphors
Draw a House
Communication Channels
Noise
Consider the following
The “I feel” Statement
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A. Some Metaphors:
1. Who is more active, the pitcher or
the catcher?
2. Who is more active, the writer or
the reader?
3. Who is more active, the speaker
or the listener?
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
Some Metaphors
Draw a House
Communication Channels
Noise
Consider the Following
The “I feel” Statement
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
Some Metaphors
Draw a House
Communication Channels
Noise
Consider the Following
The “I feel” Statement
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A. Some Metaphors
B. Draw a House
C. Communication Channels
1. Verbal
2. Vocal
3. Visual or Body Language
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
Some Metaphors
Draw a House
Communication Channels
Noise
Consider the Following
The “I feel” Statement
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A.
B.
C.
D.
Some Metaphors
Draw a House
Communication Channels
Noise: any stimulus that interferes
with accurately expressing or
understanding a message
1. Errors in Sending
2. Errors in Receiving
D. Noise
1. Errors in sending
a.
b.
c.
d.
Meta-messages
Interchannel inconsistencies
Inappropriate context
Lying: Consider the Following:
1) The Lying Black Feet and the
Truthful White Feet.
2) What is a lie?
2. Errors in Receiving
2) What is a lie?
a) The Truthful White Feet and
the Lying Black Feet
b) Definition of a lie.
D. Noise
1. Errors in sending
2. Errors in Receiving
a. Interrupting
b. Physical & Mental Unavailability
c. Perspective
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
Some Metaphors
Draw a House
Communication Channels
Noise
Consider the Following
“Questions that Open Up
Communication”
By Gary and Joy Lundberg
III. Dramatic Demonstrations
A.
B.
C.
D.
E.
F.
Some Metaphors
Draw a House
Communication Channels
Noise
Consider the Following
The “I feel” Statement
IV. Communication in Marriage
A. Gender socialization
B. Power distribution
C. Successful communication