Transcript FM - Today`s realities

The Family in Today’s Realities
The value of the family
• The family is a universal and basic element in man.
• It is the basic unit of society serving as the link between the
individual and society because every person’s earliest and
longest experience takes place within the family.
• Nothing else can replace the family as a center for the
psycho-social development of people and as a transmitter of
culture
Reality in the Filipino Family
MEDIA
Movies = sex and violence
Advertisements = more direct in
selling commodities, services and
ideas promoting a strong
consumerist mentality .
That HAPPINESS can be
found in accumulating
wealth than on developing a
caring and loving
relationships with the people
who touch their lives
Time is measured
by the hour.
Weight is measured
by the pound.
LIFE is measured
through our
RELATIONSHIPS
Serious Threats
Materialism
• A preference for
material possessions
and physical comfort
Consumerism
• The mentality of
constant buying and
accumulating material
things
Secularism
Excessive concern with the affairs and things of
the world
According to this
map, it’s
happiness ahead!
Hedonism
Belief in pleasure as the ultimate good and
man’s life aim
POVERTY
Unemployment or underemployment, drugs,
AIDS, the changing socio-economic lifestyle,
structure and political unrest
TECHNOLOGICAL DEVELOPMENTS
Has brought an enhanced lifestyle of
leisure and pleasure
Basic needs - health,
nutrition, skills; physical,
emotional, and personal
development and group
security; physical and
psychological exploitation
among individual members;
injustice; break-ups,
domestic violence, child
abuse, single parenting,
OFW”S and changing
family structures.
TO COMMIT TO SUPPORT THE FAMILY
Even amidst so many difficulties and serious threats
The family will always remain in accordance with God’s
will…
the sanctuary of life
Family as a great gift of God
to mankind; an original
gift marked by His
blessing – Cardinal Sin
Children are blessings for the
family and thus parents
should look after the
quality of the life of the
children – Pres. Arroyo
Families mission is to
become a community of
love and life - Rev.
Antonio
Family as the Cell of Society
First seeds of development are
nurtured, where the child like a
sponge absorbs everything
necessary for its growth
Develops family values like
truth, goodness and love
Contributes to the welfare of the
larger society, members should
reach out to others, social service,
in favor of the poor and practice
hospitality in all forms
The Family as the Domestic Church
Family as believing and
evangelizing community
Involves in the Church’s Mission
Accepts and practices Gospel
Values
Actively profess their faith and
participate in the liturgical
and sacramental celebration
Nourished and sustained by the
grace of the Sacrament of
the Eucharist and
Reconciliation, and prayer
both individually and in
communion
CHRISTIAN FAMILY welcomes,
respects and serves every human
being, considering each one in his
or her dignity as a person and as a
Child of God
BUILDING FAMILY RELATIONS
Family Communications
1. Monologue – only one speaks
and the other listens
2.Duologue – both are talking
simultaneously and no one
wants to listen
3. Dialogue – one speaks while
the other listens, after which
the other one also speaks and
the other also listens
Its is a basic human desire to
express oneself whatever form it
Communication
takes. One wants to be listened
It is the verbal and
to, to be understood, to be
non-verbal way of
recognized, to feel important to
expressing or
be in good relationships with
transferring meanings
others
and feelings; a process
that allows people to
know each other, to
relate to one another,
to understand the true
meaning of the other
person’s life
Communication
LISTENING
A good listener listen not only to the
sound of spoken words but also to the
sound of silence.
NON-VERBAL SIGNS
to discern not only what is expressed
orally but what is shown in the eyes,
facial expression,gestures,mannerisms,
smile,smirk, postures
DIRECTNESS
Does not resort to hazy suggestions and
innuendoes that contaminate the
message, which can be disastrous.
CLARITY
Concise and clear. Verbosity and
decorative words cause confusion and
distraction.
1. CLICHÉ LEVEL - small talk
shallow conversation ( Hello!, How are you?)
Sometimes meaningless, usually happens to
acquaintances
No sharing of persons at all
2. FACTS LEVEL – Information is shared but not personal
comment.
Telling and talking about others – Gossiping
Focus is still on events outside of oneself
No personal revelation of feelings/emotions
Usually men settle for this type as they are less expressive of
their feelings
3. IDEA / OPINION Level
Real communication starts here
Speaker starts to share a part of himself
Takes the risk to explore thoughts and opinions
4. Feeling/Emotion Level or
Gut level
Describes what is going on
inside: feelings about people,
situation
Sharing joys, sorrows and
resentment
Can be a venue for better and
even mutual understanding.
Here one feels worthy, loved &
appreciated & safe in his partners
appreciation
I care about you. I feel frustrated
PEAK LEVEL
Perfect mutual empathy
Highest level
Absolute openness, honesty, and frankness
Type of communication that husband and wife
should strive to achieve
To speak without words through gestures,
postures and facial expression. ( smile,
wink or pat on the back)
Husband and wife should maintain time to
find intellectual stimulation and newness.
They should share ideas gathered from
their work/profession and interests
This is the time to play. Retaining the child
within, its playfulness, creativity, wonder,
laughter, spontaneity, trust, adventure and
newness is essential for maintaining the
vibrancy and fun of a relationship.
This involves the intimate giving of oneself and
receiving from the beloved through a conjugal
relationship. By being totally honest and caring in
sexual communication, couples can learn what is
really pleasing to one another and grow so much
closer together.
This is the highest form of communication. A
couple may feel closest to God when saying
prayers together by the cradle of their
newborn baby. Sharing spiritual insights or
experiences of the day, of joy or sorrow,
makes God present and available.
Since emotions form a fiber of man’s being, they
play an important role in communication. A
husband’s anger at his wife’s disinterestedness,
for instance, can become the springboard for
honest communication. Tender thoughts and
feelings written and exchange can enhance and
deepen their love for each other.
Couples should share mutual or
diverse interest; this serves as a
source of situation and growth in
communication.
Social communication is the predominant mode of
communication before marriage. Social
communication goes beyond the couple
themselves to the world outside and brings the
couple into communication with others who walk
beside them in the world.
Cultural communication leads us to a
dialogue of mutual appreciation that takes
the couple into one another’s family and
ethnic background, which has brought
them to where they are. Sharing traditions
leads to appreciation and understanding.
The way man views his world is often different
from the woman’s and vice-versa. The different
points of view, when exposed, offer excellent
opportunity for communication and lead for
greater understanding and closeness.
1. Communication builds up
and develops an authentic
Relationship between
couples:
- enables couples to express
their love for each other.
- Helps them keep in touch
and support their lives
together as husband and
wife.
-As they talk about the many
aspects of their lives their sense
of commitment & care for each
other deepens and grows.
- regular communication helps
married couples grow in unity
which is based on a relationship
with Christ.
-Good communication minimizes
and recognizes disagreements
and differences.
2. Communication is a way of creating a climate of
faith, understanding and trust between couples
- “It is the
breath of
life” in
marriage.
No marriage
will survive
without it.
--Good
communication
is a give & take
listening and
sharing.
- Open and Honest communication
puts charity. Love, trust & faith into
practice.
3. Prayer as communication with God strengthens
the marriage/relationship and enables one to
discern God’s will in life’s daily events.
- Prayer, one of the greatest
tools in God’s grace.
- Communication with God in prayer is:
• Spending quality time with him personally as a family
(a family that prays together stays together)
• Listening to his Word
• Eucharist.
ACTIVITY
• Knowing yourself is the
beginning of good
communication.
1. List down 2-3 strengths you
have which you consider
effective aids to family
communication.
2. Write down a list of 2-3
weaknesses you have which you
consider to be obstacles to
family communication.
QUIZ
A. Describe
yourself, and tell
me something
about your family.
B. What is it in your C. What is it that you
don’t like in your
family right now,
family now and how
which you like
will you prevent it?
and that you want
to inculcate in
your future
D. Compose a prayer for
family, and how
your family
will you do it?