Transcript Interpersonal Communication

Interpersonal
Communication
What is a goal?
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Something you want to achieve
Human behavior is the goal
Goal of Interpersonal
Communication
A personal
goal that is
linked to another person’s
thoughts, feelings, or
actions
Basic Assumptions
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People try to achieve goals in concert with
other people
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Help someone move; initiate friendship, want and
perception
We use communication to achieve goals
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Way we communicate=whether or not we get
goal
Self-Presentational Goals
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Communicate image of who we are and
how we want to be perceived (control
image of who we are)
Modified daily
Want to look intelligent, capable, expert,
effective
Two Self-Presentational Styles
 Competence
try to show others they know what is
best
 better trained, more capable
 talk more about self and own
achievements
 traditionally seen as a more masculine
trait
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Two Self-Presentational Styles
 Friendliness
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do not want to show others up; try to get
along
smile and nod more often, frequently express
agreement with others
try to find ways they are similar to others
traditionally seen as a more feminine
characteristic
Other Self-Presentational Styles
 Weak/Indecisive
to get others do help them – i.e.
homework, car repairs, errands, etc.
 exploits a dependence on others
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 Assertive
strong vs. aggressive
 overbearing
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Relational Goals
 How
we develop relationships,
maintain them, or neglect them
 bring
joy & sorrow (love=
daughter/son, friend, significant
other)
 Every
relationship eventually
ends – natural/premature
“Research shows…”
 “…relationships
are the products
of our interpersonal
communication and the way we
communicate depends, in turn,
on the nature and quality of our
relationships.”
“Research shows…”
 you
and your partner discuss future
time together – holidays, vacations,
school/jobs
 increases level of commitment,
assured continuance of relationship
 increased level of commitment
allows you to dream and discuss
future plans
Three Types of Relational
Goals
 Escalating
 more
interdependent, intimate
 Maintaining
 sustain
current level
 De-escalating
 drift
away
Instrumental Goals
 Try
to get others to do us a favor
or give us something
 Goals for self-advancement
Everyday Events Like…
 ride
to school
 days off at your job
 help with homework
 money from parents
 We sometimes pursue one type
of goal at the expense of others