Transcript Away from bias, disrespect, and bullying Words to be explored

How to Reform our Language?
Meaning Behind our Communication, Power
of Language, Awareness around
Inappropriate Jokes
By: Poran Poregbal
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Sigmund Freud
Freud in “Jokes and their Relations to the
Unconscious” (1963):
“A jokes is a judgment which produces a
comic contrast”
“Relation to the object of the joke is the
concealed ugliness of the world of
thoughts:
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Purpose of the Jokes
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Tendentious: amdi, gerayesh dar
Non-tendentious: baraye khandeh
Jokes as a social process
Jokes as a neurotic illness
The relation of jokes to dream and to the
unconscious
Social context
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Jokes according to Freud
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A contrast of ideas
Sense of nonsense
Meaninglessness of the words
Look at the differences rather than
similarities
Playing with ideas
Insulting and wounding purposes
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Hidden Meanings
Need for Awareness around the
Power of Language, Inappropriate
Jokes, and our Way of
Communicating; Away from bias,
disrespect, and bullying
 Words to be explored:
Power, Language, Joke,
Communication, Bias, Disrespect,
Bullying
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Language to unite us
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We should reform the language to include
everyone
We have a choice of using the language
respectful
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Loss of Power
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What kind of power do we have when
joking about serious things
Power comes from:
Status, social class, gender, religion,
language use, way of conveying message
to others, ……
What do we say in that situation?
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Language
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Communication
Showing emotions
Describing incidents
Telling things
Facts- behaviors-thoughts
Ideological and political meaning
Connecting people
Physical, psychological, spiritual, emotional
discourses
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What do we Talk about?
Ethical issues in language use : Offensive,
defensive, submissive, demanding,
threatening, & responsive
 Use of empathy, use of taaroof, use of
labels, use of names……
 Greetings, how are you doing?
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Joke
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Should be fun, yet respectful
Should bring laughter, not pain
Should create connection not
disconnection
Should be general, not specific
No specific ethnicity
Someone from ……
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Communication Styles
Assertive : I messages…..
 self-confident,
 clear message,
 eye contact,
 good tone,
 respectful,
 fluent talk,
 firm gestures
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Communication Styles
Passive Style:
 Non-assertive,
 Denying or giving away our own rights
 Avoiding conflicts by accommodating others
 Being submissive or timid
 Down cast eyes
 Soft voice
 Hesitation in words
 Helpless gestures
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Communication Styles
Aggressive Style
 Defending self
 Violating other’s rights
 Ignoring other’s feelings
 Demanding
 Loud, yelling voice
 Emphasizing “you”
 Pointing finger at partner
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Bias; Taasoob
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My point of view only
I know the truth
My group of people are better
Rich people can decide
Only our home country
My language only
One political party
No one else but me and my ideology
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Disrespect
Not respecting: not accepting
What is respect then?
 Accepting others
 Trusting others
 Valuing others
 Doing things collaboratively
 Asking opinion
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Bullying= Tamaskor, azyat kardan
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The act of harming others by making fun of
them, assaulting them, or harassing others
Harassment can be verbal, physical, and
emotional
Abuser who posses more physical or social
power dominance the victim
Dehumanizing and belittling others
In schools, workplaces, between nations, around
the word issue
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What can we do?
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Raise awareness
Talk to your community
Think of your own way of communication
What do we really want to say with jokes?
We can have fun with proper use of
language
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A joke!
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Patient: I am healed, I am cured, l have
written a book about horse
Doctor: oh, that is nice, what book is that?
Patient: here it is
Doctor opens the book to see 400 pages
of piticu, piticu, piticu……….
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