Transcript An Invitation to Health Chapter 6 Eating Patterns and Problems

An Invitation to Health
Chapter 7
Communication and Relationships
Dr. Lana Zinger
©2004 Wadsworth Publishing Co.
Personal Communication
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Communicating Feelings
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Responsibility in our dealings with anyone or anything we
value.
Emotional investment.
Communication of all types of emotions.
Listening.
Nonverbal Communication
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More than 90% of all communication is nonverbal.
Understanding body language and it’s cultural influences.
Forming Relationships
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Self-Esteem
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How one perceives himself or
herself affects how we reach out
and relate to others.
Friendship
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“the most holy bond of society.”
Qualities of a good friend:
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Honesty, acceptance, dependability,
empathy, and loyalty.
The Science of Romantic Love
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Anthropological View
Intense attraction
between individuals
seems to be a human
universal, or at least, near
universal.
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Biochemical View
Heart vs. Brain
Neurotransmitters
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Dopamine,
norepinephrine, and
phenylethylamine (PEA)
Endorphins (chemicals)
Oxytocin (hormone)
Living Arrangement Options
Living with parents.
Staying single.
Living with one or more friends.
Living in a long term relationship with a lover
of the same or opposite sex.
Getting married.
To Wed Or Not To Wed?
Percent Of All Households
Occupied By One Person
A Look At Some Divorce Statistics
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Half of all marriages end in divorce.
The older the bride, the better the chance
the marriage will last.
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~60% of brides <18 years vs. 36% of those
age 20+ years eventually separate or divorce.
African American couples are more likely to
break up than White couples.
80% of divorced men and women remarry.
Types of Marriages
Traditional
Marriages
Rescue
Marriages
CompanionOriented
Marriages
Romantic
Marriages
Toxic Relationships
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A relationship in which either person
is made to feel worthless or
incompetent.
Physical Symptoms:
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Headaches, digestive troubles, tics, and
inability to sleep well.
The responsibility for changing the
unhealthy dynamics belongs to both.
Common Predictors of Marital Discord
A high level of arousal during a
discussion.
Defensive behaviors such as making
excuses and denying responsibility
for disagreements.
A wife’s expression of contempt.
A husband’s stonewalling.
Issues Couples Confront
Unrealistic
Expectations
Sex
Settling
Differences
Extramarital
Affairs
TwoCareer
Couples
Money
Breadwinner
Wives
Codependence
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Definition:
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The tendency of the spouses, partners, parents, and friends
of individuals with addictive behaviors to allow or enable their
loved ones to continue their self-destructive behaviors.
Characteristics of Codependent Individuals:
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Individuals that focus on their loved ones, even to the extent
of giving up their own lives.
Individuals that change who they are and what they feel in
order to please others, feel responsible for meeting others’
needs, have low self-esteem, and frequently have compulsions
of their own.
Dysfunctional Relationships
Codependence
The tendency of the
spouses, partners,
parents, and friends of
individuals with addictive
behaviors to allow or
enable their loved ones to
continue their selfdestructive behaviors.
Enabling
Shielding
Controlling
Taking over responsibilities
Rationalizing
Cooperating
Rescuing
Is Breaking Up Hard to Do?
Crucial Ingredients for Commitment
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Shared values.
A willingness to change
in response to each
other.
A willingness to tolerate
flaws.
A match in religious
beliefs.
The ability to
communicate effectively.
Characteristics Of A
Good Relationship
Trust
Togetherness
Expressiveness
Staying
Power
Security
Laughter
Support
Physical
Affection
Personal
Growth
Respect