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Self, perception and
communication
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Self-sabotage or self-fulfillment
■ “You are what you think”; thoughts are the seeds
of actions.
■ The true sabotage lies within communication
with oneself, in thoughts and in words
■ Intra personal communication is the
communication is the communication you have
with yourself about yourself and others.
(Perkins, page 2-3)
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“Who am I?”
■ We are a complex person.
■ Difficult to answer accurately or completely.
■ Our life begins and we started to learn who we are,
through our interactions with the people around us.
■ Most of us has a constant image of ourselves.
■ The image of ourselves also varies with different
situation.
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Our interactions
■ How others treat us affect how we view
ourselves.
■ Also we can “hide” some parts of ourselves or
features to prevent rejection.
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Intrapersonal communication
■ Communication with oneself is the basis of all
other communication experiences.
■ We “create” our own “movie of life”
■ Thoughts and words are the tools of creation of
our “movie of life”.
■ “Labels” about life comes from inside us.
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Understanding self-concept
■ Our self concept or self identity is our perceived self,
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which consists of an organised collection of beliefs and
attitudes about self.
Who we perceive ourselves to be is determined by our
experiences and communication with others.
This include the roles and values we have selected for
ourselves, and how we believe others see us.
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Understanding self concept
■ Self concept consists of 2 subcomponents,
closely related:
1. Self image
The mental picture of self
2. Self-esteem
Our feelings and attitudes towards ourselves
including our evaluation of ourselves
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Dive into your life: How clean is your lake ?
(Perkins, 2008, page 6)
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Self-concept as a process
■ Communication is a dynamic process and so is
our self-concept.
■ Self perception and the perception of others
have of us differ from time to time, from situation
to situation and from person to person
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An exercise: “Who
am I?”
■ Ask yourself this question.
■ Answer on a piece of paper.
■ Write as much as possible
■ Share with the class
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Was it a difficult question?
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Self-concept is complex because….
■ Self concept is affected by:
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How we perceive ourselves
How we perceive others
How others perceive us
How we think others perceive
■ Influenced by our values, attitudes and beliefs
etc {culture and gender}
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Kinch Model : Self-concept and
Communication
Perception of
others’
responses(P)
Actual
responses of
others (A)
Self-concept (S)
Behaviour (B)
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Self-concept and communication
■ The perception we believe others have on us
affect our communication.
■ Our view of ourselves influences how we
communicate with others.
■ Communication and self concept are
inseparable and both involve process.
■ Consider the personal-social identity continuum
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Self-fulfilling prophecy
■ What we expect of ourselves and then making it
happens is called “self-fulfilling prophecy”
■ Self-fulfilling prophecy is powerful in shaping our selfconcepts.
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Understanding the self and others
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Impression Management
■ The way people perceive us strongly influence their
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behaviour toward us and thus influence communication.
The desire to “look good” to others at first meeting is
very strong.
The creation of positive image of oneself to influence
others is referred to as impression management ( selfpresentation)
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Culture, gender and self-concept
■ Does culture and gender influence our self-concept?
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References:
■ Seiler, W. J and Beall, M. L ( 2008). Communication.
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Making Connections ( 7th ed). Boston: Pearson
Perkins,P. S ( 2008). The Art and Science of
Communication. Tools for Effective Communication in
the Work Place. New Jersey: Wiley.
Hybels, S., and Weaver II, R. L ( 2004). Communcating
Effectively ( 7th ed). Boston: Mc Graw Hill
Verdeber, R. F. and Verderber, K.S (
2005).Communicate( 11th ed). CA: Thomson/Wadsworth
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