Transcript RespectMe - Sport Scotland

Registered Scottish Charity No: SC016092
Tutor Update Meeting
Monday 5th October
Registered Scottish Charity No: SC016092
Welcome & Update
Registered Scottish Charity No: SC016092
News and Update
• Spectator Behaviour Survey
• MOR Reviews
• Recent Publications
CPSU ‘Children and Young People’s Worries in Sport’
https://thecpsu.org.uk/media/2534/children-and-youngjune-2015-report.pdf
• Training
– CHILDREN 1st – Communicating with Children & Young People
– Respect Me – Anti-Bullying
– CEOP/UK Safer Internet – Online Protection
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Bullying…It’s Never Acceptable
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About respectme
Values and Principles
• The rights of children and young people are at the heart of
everything we do
• Our values of respect, equality and inclusion underpin every
aspect of our work
• We work in partnership to build the capacity of all adults
who play a role in the lives of children and young people
• We promote a positive, practical and realistic approach to
improving the life experiences of children and young people
• We will influence behaviour, culture and attitude towards
bullying behaviour in Scotland and further afield
How respectme training works?
Objectives of 1-Day Training
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Discuss what bullying behaviour is and what it is not
Recognise prejudice based bullying
Recognise Cyberbullying
Recognise that bullying is a breach of children’s rights
Identify the signs that bullying may be taking place
Explain the factors that may lead to a person bullying
Recognise the effects that bullying can have on mental
health and well-being
• Describe anti-bullying approaches that can be embedded
in both policy and daily practice
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Exercise
• In your groups discuss the statements in front of
you…
• Do you agree or disagree with the statement?
• Have you heard this statement before?
• What impact might attitudes like these have on the
way that bullying incidents are dealt with?
• Feed back to the rest of the group…
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What do we mean by bullying?
• Is intent required?
• Does the behaviour have to be persistent?
• What about impact?
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What do we mean by bullying?
• Bullying is behaviour that impacts on a person’s
capacity to feel in control of themselves
• Bullying makes people feel hurt, frightened and left
out
• This behaviour may not be repeated but the threat
can be sustained
This behaviour can include
• Being called names, teased, put down or
threatened
• Being hit, tripped, kicked or pushed
• Having belongings taken or damaged
• Being ignored, left out or having rumours spread
• Receiving abusive messages electronically
• Being targeted because of who you are or are
perceived to be
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Prejudice-Based Bullying
• Asylum seekers and
refugees
• Body Image
• Disabilist
• Homophobic
• Looked After Children
• Race and Ethnicity
• Religion and belief
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Sectarianism
Sexism and gender
Transgender
Young carers
Social and Economic
Prejudice
Values and Risks
Exercise
• In groups of three or four, discuss the following methods of
communication:
– Mobile phones
– Social Networking Sites
– Instant messaging/chatrooms
• How do children and young people use these technologies?
• What values and risks do they carry?
Online is a place not a thing…
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Why Do People Bully?
• All behaviour communicates feelings. Bullying
behaviour is no different.
• The reasons for displaying bullying behaviour can be
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– Poor role modelling
– Seeking to gain power and control
– A reaction to previous bullying behaviour
– A strategy to prevent further experience of bullying
– A lack of awareness of the impacts of bullying
– A lack of perception of their behaviour
Children’s Rights
“Every child has the right not to be bullied”
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child 1989
European Convention Human Rights
Equality Act 2010
Possible Signs
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Changes in mood and
behaviour
Increased anxiety
Scratches and bruises that
can’t really be explained
The child doesn’t want to go
to school or is having
trouble with school work
Changes in the route that is
taken to school
Torn or damaged clothing
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The child doesn’t want to
go out and play with friends
Unexplained head/stomach
aches and other pains
Easily upset, unexplained
tears or ill-tempered
behaviour
Fear or alarm when
messages are received
Spending more time or
changing their online
behaviour
Impacts of Bullying Behaviour
Society
Organisation
Family
Long-term
Individual
Short-term
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Impacts of bullying
on Individuals
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RAW (Resist Acquiesce Withdraw)
Anticipation
School Attendance
Eating disorders
Violence towards others
Suicide
Limited aspirations
Self-harm
Depression
Bullying behaviours
Impacts of bullying
on families
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Stress
Anxiety
Guilt
Anticipation
Strained relationships
Helplessness
Concerns regarding authority figures/establishments
Aggression in the household
Impacts of bullying
on Organisations
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Relationship difficulties
Undermining positive ethos and practice
Group working difficulties
Inhibit learning
Inhibit group dynamics
Lack of attendance
Pressure on support services
Impacts of bullying
on Culture/Society
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Bullying behaviour celebrated
Difficulty in promoting pro-social behaviour
Negative messages in media
Negative role models
Impact on working environments
Increased costs to society
Prejudicial behaviour flourishing
Levels of mistrust and fear increasing
Culture
• What do we mean by culture?
• What is the culture in your service or organisation?
• What can you do?
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Some Examples of Good Practice
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Positive Relationships
Communication
Training and Support
Questionnaires
Codes of Conduct
Activities Around Respect/Diversity
Visual Reminders
Discussions
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Peer Mentoring
Club Rules
Pre-planned Sessions
Role-modelling
Social Media policies
Reporting Mechanisms
Natural Consequences
Buddy Systems
Case Studies…
What would you do next?
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Response
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Do not panic and keep an open mind
Your response is vitally important
Listen – give the child your full attention
Comfortable place with no distractions
Let the child know bullying is never acceptable; they
deserve to feel safe
• Gently encourage them to talk, finding out what
happened, who was involved, where and when - write
it down if that helps
• Listen - what do they want you to do?
• Help to restore agency
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What about the child who is bullying?
• Deal with the behaviour in the same way as you would
with any type of challenging behaviour
• Listen and take time to discover the reasons for the
bullying
• Do not label the individual or group as ‘bullies’, name the
behaviour
• Be prepared for a strong reaction from parents and
carers and children and young people
• Be prepared to address prejudicial attitudes that may be
behind the bullying behaviour
• Address what’s happening behind the behaviour, even
when the bullying has stopped
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Recovery
‘Recovery is remembering who you are and
using your strengths to become all that you
were meant to be.’
Ashcraft et al 2004
Recovery…The Factors
• Hope that a better life is possible and achievable
• Discovery or to re-discover the meaning in an individual’s life
• Change the potential for change is possible
• Control individual given a voice in decisions made about them and
about their care
Resilience
Can be described as:
‘The process of, capacity for, or outcome of successful adaptation despite
challenging or threatening circumstances’
Promoting Resilience
• A positive and safe climate within the setting (culture)
• A sense of belonging and connectedness
• Involvement in decision making generally, including anti-bullying policy
and practice
• Opportunities for challenge and success
• Recognition of achievement
• Safe risk taking
Answering Common Questions…
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Change the language – ditch ‘bully’ and ‘victim’
Challenge attitudes that aren’t solution-focussed
Be prepared to challenge underlying prejudices
Change the ‘definition’ – look at the impact!
Ask the wider group for ideas
Refer to respectme for further info…
Conclusion
Bullying is never acceptable.
It is not a normal part of growing up.
It does not build character – trust, acceptance,
consistency and safety builds character.
We must all be good role models in the truest sense and
remember – we can make a difference!
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For further information
On bullying and what you can do:
respectme, Telephone: 0844 800 8600
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.respectme.org.uk
On recovery, impacts and mental health:
Scottish Association for Mental Health (SAMH)
Website: www.samh.org.uk
On homophobic bullying and support
LGBT Youth Scotland
Website: www.lgbtyouth.org.uk
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Useful links
• Scottish Association for Mental Health (SAMH):
0141 568 7000 or www.samh.org.uk
• ParentLine Scotland:
0808 800 2222 or www.children1st.org.uk/parentline
• Breathing Space:
Their helpline is open 6pm to 2am.
0800 83 85 87 or www.breathingspacescotland.co.uk
• Samaritans:
08457 90 90 90, www.samaritans.org.uk or email
[email protected]
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Thank you
Questions?
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