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Wedding Expenses
(Some of many options for couple or family)
1. Rings: engagement, bride’s wedding, groom’s
2. Wedding invitations: Invitations, reply card, directions, thank-you
notes; stamps for invitations (often more than the standard because
of weight), reply cards, and thank-you notes
3. Shower: invitations and stamps, hall rental, cake, other food,
beverages, decorations, prizes, game supplies, thank-you notes and
stamps
4. Rehearsal: gifts for wedding party and parents, food, beverages
5. Church: church fee, presiding minister’s honorarium or gift,
musicians’ fee, pew ribbons, unity candle, aisle runner, other
decorations, ring pillow, flower girl’s basket, bubbles or other favor
6. Bride’s clothing . . . : wedding dress, alterations, petticoats, veil or
alternative, jewelry, shoes, hair arrangement, garter
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Wedding Expenses
(Some of many options for couple or family)
7. Groom’s clothing . . . : tuxedo rental, haircut
8. Clothing for wedding party and parents . . . : tuxedo rentals,
bridesmaid dresses, shoes, jewelry (often a gift from the bride),
mother-of-the-bride and mother-of-the groom dresses and
accessories, haircuts, hair arrangements
9. Flowers: church; reception (clamps for bouquets to attach to head
table); bride’s bouquet; bridesmaids’ bouquets; boutonnieres for
groom, groomsmen, ushers, fathers, grandfathers; corsages for
mothers, grandmothers, personal attendants
10. Preserving the memories: video technician and photographer for
pre-wedding, church, and reception, proofs, pictures for couple and
others, videos/DVDS, CDs
11. Transportation to church, between church and reception, after
reception
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Wedding Expenses
(Some of many options for couple or family)
12. Reception: hall rental, music, centerpieces for head table and for all
tables, other decorations, food, wedding cake, cake topper, mints
and/or nuts and dishes or cups, beverages, place cards, favors,
napkins (two sizes, personalized), decorated container for cards,
guest book and pen with stand, cake knife and server, easels, and
tips (often an overall fee per guest covers all or most of these items)
13. Post reception: hotel room for couple, possibly hotel rooms for
some family members and members of the wedding party (the night
before the wedding as well)
14. Honeymoon: transportation (including airfare), hotel, food and
beverages, tours, clothing, souvenirs, film and development,
videotapes
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Wedding Music
“A Nuptial Blessing” by Michael Joncas.
“A Wedding Prayer” by Howard S. Olson, Meru tune.
“All That We Have” by Gary Ault.
“Blessing the Marriage” by John Bell, Sussex carol tune.
“Bwana Awabariki, May the Lord Bless You Forever,” African folk
hymn.
“Companions on the Journey” by Carey Landry.
“For Everything There Is a Time” by Donald Reagan.
“God, in the Planning” by John Bell, traditional Irish tune.
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Wedding Music
“In Love We Choose to Live” by Jeanne Cotter.
“Like a Seal on My Heart” by Carey Landry.
“Lord, When You Came, Pescador de Hombres” by César
Gabaráin, translation by Willard Francis Jabusch.
“Love Is the Sunlight” by Borghild Jacobson and David Haas.
“One Bread, One Body” by John Foley.
“We Will Serve the Lord” by David Haas.
“When Love Is Found” by Brian Wren.
“Wherever You Go” by David Haas or by Gregory Norbet.
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Reasons People Marry
— To share life with a loving companion
— To create new life: both by having children if possible, but also
by creating a new relationship
— To strengthen and empower each other
— To call forth what is best in each other
— To form a solid base of support so that each feels able to reach
out in generous service to others
— To support one another in the growth of a deep and rich faith
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Marriage Preparation Questions
— Do we agree about men and women’s roles in marriage? If
not, where do we disagree?
— How do our families feel about our marriage?
— Are we old enough or should we wait?
— Are we able and prepared to share the full range of emotions
and intimacies with each other—equally and mutually?
— How do we tolerate change in each other?
— Is each of us independent enough of the other so that we can
feel secure about who we are in and of ourselves?
— Are we willing to allow each other to maintain friendships
with others? Where do we draw the line?
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Marriage Preparation Questions
— How do we feel about having children?
— What expectations and hopes do we have for sexual expression in
marriage?
— When we discuss an issue, can we come to consensus or does one
of us always need to have our way?
— How compatible are our religious beliefs?
— What do we have in common in terms of interests, ideas, hobbies,
and so on?
— How do we deal with money issues: What is enough? Who pays
the bills? Is either of us in debt?
— Are we responsible in our work lives? Do we have similar work
ethics?
— What are each of our dreams? Are our dreams compatible?
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CHAPTER 9
Vocabulary Review
spouse (page 197)
generic term for male or female marriage partner; half of a married
couple
monogamy (page 198)
having only one spouse at a time
polygamy (page 198)
having more than one spouse at a time
indissoluble (page 198)
not able to be dissolved or broken apart
nuptial (page 199)
from a Latin word meaning related to or pertaining to marriage
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Vocabulary Review
Matrimony (page 199)
the Sacrament of Marriage, a covenant relationship between a man
and a woman that is oriented toward their loving unity and the
procreation, raising, and education of children
covenant (page 202)
a solemn agreement between humans or between God and
humans involving mutual commitments or guarantees
vocation (page 203)
from the Latin word for a call or invitation, a state of life or work
to which one feels called, in contrast to work that would be
considered simply a job
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Vocabulary Review
fidelity (page 208)
faithfulness; in the context of marriage, not having a sexual
relationship with anyone but one’s spouse; in addition, commitment
to growing in love for one another
natural family planning (page 210)
a method of planning the conception of children that is based on
natural signs of fertility and infertility in a woman’s menstrual
cycle
divorce (page 213)
declaration by a civil court that a legal marriage has ended and
that the parties are free to remarry
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Vocabulary Review
declaration of nullity (page 213)
declaration by a Church court that a failed marriage was never
really a sacramental marriage, even though people may have
thought it was; commonly referred to as an annulment
tribunal (page 213)
a Church court that examines and decides cases with regard to
Church law, especially marriage cases
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