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The Challenges to Marriage
‫التحديات الخطيرة في الزواج واألسرة‬
St George & St Joseph Coptic Orthodox Church, Montreal, QC
Couples Meeting – September 24, 2015
Yousry Armanios, M.D.
[email protected]
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‫البيت المسيحي‬
‫اختاروا ألنفسكم اليوم من تعبدون‬
‫أما أنا وبيتي فنعبد الرب‬
‫يشوع ‪24:15‬‬
JUST MARRIED!
What God Has Joined Together, Let Not
Man Separate”
(Matthew 19:6)
The Ultimate: Marriage!
And, Family Life
!‫المحبة ال تسقط أبدا‬
Love Never Fails!
‫الحب يتغلب على التحديات‬
Love Overcomes the Challenges
All Challenges!
The Ten Challenges ‫العشرة تحديات‬
1. Our Ego!
2. Resolving the Differences
3. Leaving
4. Intimacy
5. Mammon
6. Boredom
7. Communication
8. Keeping the Boundaries
9. Mutual Trust
10. The New Visitors!
‫ الذات‬.1
‫ حل اإلختالفات‬.2
‫ الترك‬.3
‫ االلتصاق‬.4
‫ الماديات‬.5
‫ الملل‬.6
‫ التواصل‬.7
‫ إبقاء الحدود‬.8
‫ الثقة المتبادلة‬.9
!‫ الزوار الجدد‬.10
‫العشرة تحديات‬
‫الذات ‪1.‬‬
‫حل اإلختالفات ‪2.‬‬
‫الترك ‪3.‬‬
‫االلتصاق ‪4.‬‬
‫الماديات ‪5.‬‬
‫الملل ‪6.‬‬
‫التواصل ‪7.‬‬
‫إبقاء الحدود ‪8.‬‬
‫الثقة المتبادلة ‪9.‬‬
‫الزوار الجدد! ‪10.‬‬
Proper Communication:
Both spouses may love each other
dearly, but without proper
communication, that love goes
unnoticed and the result is often
terrible and tragic!
Our Feelings When,
We Don’t Communicate
Or
Miscommunicate
How Does It Feel When …?
The Image of God!
Communication is about Love!
“So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.
“Therefore, what God has joined together, let
not man separate”
Matthew 19:6
1. The Radio:
One-Way Communication!
2. “Skype”
Two-Ways Communication!
So, How Should We Communicate?
1. Verbal Communication
2. Non-Verbal Communication
1. Verbal Communication
Please Consider …
• Changing Your Old Stereotypes
• Improving Your Skills: LISTEN
• Each Other’s Right for Self-Expression
• Using Always the “I” Statements!
Verbal Communication Takes Time to
Help Us Understand our Differences
• For women, it’s an
end in itself
• For men, it’s more
of a means
towards a goal
• For both, it builds
mutual interest
and trust
Communication & Listening
“Everyone should be quick to
listen, slow to speak and slow
to become angry.” (James 1:19)
The Assertive “I” Statements
Exercise:
1. “I” Feel …!
2. “I” Think …!
3. “I” Believe …!
4. “I” Need …!
2. Non-Verbal Communication
 Facial Features & Body Language
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“Other” Four Languages of Love:
Time Together!
Unexpected (Surprise) Gifts!
Silent Help!
Messaging: (Dress; Cook; Initiatives …)
Negative Communication Patterns
(1)
• Interrupting
• Stonewalling
• Avoiding
• Ignoring
• Threatening
Negative Communication Patterns
(2)
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Mind Reading
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Criticizing
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Monopolizing/Polarizing
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Cynicism
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Passive Aggressiveness
Validation of Feelings:
Your Prescription for Success!
+ Spot the Feeling
+ Address the Feeling:
Examples:
• “Yes, I understand how you feel”!
• “You sound like you’re …”!
• “You look like you’re …”!
• “There’s something bothering you”!
The Outcome:
Problem Solving
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Many Problems Can Be Avoided
If:
We Communicate Our Feelings!
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Many Problems can Be Resolved
If:
We Can Communicate Them Right!
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‫البيت المسيحي‬
‫اختاروا ألنفسكم اليوم من تعبدون‬
‫أما أنا وبيتي فنعبد الرب‬
‫يشوع ‪24:15‬‬
Finally, Always Remember that:
“Love Never Fails”!
(1 Corinthians 13)
Thank You
Q&A
[email protected]
Dr. Yousry Armanios
614-327-8289