Transcript chapter 10 outline

Chapter 10: Skills for Healthy
Relationships
Write down and define the following
vocabulary words
relationship, friendship, citizenship,
constructive criticism, tolerance,
active listening, “I” message, mediation,
negotiation, interpersonal conflict,
conflict resolution
Relationships can effect your:
• Physical health
• mental/emotional health
• Social health
Questions to ask yourself when
choosing a friend:
• Does this person have the qualities I admire most?
• Is this someone I can trust with my thoughts and
confidences?
• How does this person affect my health triangle?
• What interests and values do we have in common?
• What can I offer in this friendship? What can the
other person offer?
The Three C's of Health
Relationships
• Communication: ways of sending and
receiving messages.
• Cooperation: working together for the
good of all.
• Compromise: problem solving method
that involves each participant's giving up
something to reach a solution that satisfies
everyone.
Characteristics of Healthy
Relationships
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Mutual Respect and Consideration
Honesty
Dependability
Commitment
Character has the greatest
influence on your relationships with
others.
Six Man Traits for Good Character:
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Trustworthiness
Respect
Responsibility
Fairness
Caring
Citizenship
Communication Styles
• Passive:
• Aggressive:
• Assertive:
*Speaking skills: Clearly expressing yourself,
use of tone, pitch, or loudness of voice
Listening Skills are equally as important
as speaking when it comes to
communication.
Five Techniques for Active
Listening:
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Reflective Listening
Clarifying
Encouraging
Empathizing
Body Language
Communication Barriers
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Image or Identity Issues
Unrealistic Expectations
Lack of Trust
Prejudice
Gender Stereotyping
Common Causes of Conflict
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Power Struggles
Loyalty
Jealous/Envy
Property disputes
Territory and space
• Any others?
When responding to a conflict
remember the following:
*Your primary concern should be your health
and safety.
*Walking away from a potentially dangerous
situation is a mature, healthful choice. It
does not make you a coward. It is the smart
and safe thing to do.
Strategies for Resolving Conflicts
• Take time to calm down and think over the
situation
• When discussing the conflict, take turns
explaining each person's side of the conflict
without interruption. Use “I” messages
• Ask for clarification so that each person
understands the other's position.
• Brainstorm solutions
• Agree on a solution that benefits both sides
• Follow up to see whether the correct solution was
chosen and whether that solution worked out for
each person
What are the roles of the
mediator in a mediation?
• Maintain strict confidentiality
• Summarize each side
• Ask for clarification on any points that are
inaccurate
• Set ground rules for the mediation
• Create an agreement for each side to sign