Transcript 跨文化交际Unit6

Unit 6
Cross-Gender Communication
Objectives
1. Learn the differences of sex and gender;
2. Learn the differences of feminine and
masculine communication cultures;
3. Learn to understand cross-gender
communication.
Contents
1
Lead-in
2
Text Study
3
Practice
4
Summary
5
Homework
Expressions related to two genders
• Men are from Mars, women are from Venus.
• There’re three types of human beings: men,
women and women doctors.
• Man and woman are like two hedgehogs in
winter: too close, get hurt; too far away, get
lonely and cold.
• Is it possible to get a confidante or confidant in
reality?
• “别瞎说，我们只是好朋友而已。”听到这种台词，相必一大帮
人会带着一副原来如此的表情在心里说“且……”。
• 我只听过一句话“不要让你的女朋友有蓝颜知己，因为蓝着蓝着
你就绿了，不要让你的男朋友有红颜知己，因为红着红着你俩就
黄了”我觉得很对。
• 在幼儿园里存在，还有就是耄耋之年有，这中间的年龄段绝对是
挑战。
无论红颜蓝颜，都是替补队员
理论上当然有，两个条件：长得足够难看，情商足够高。
据说90+的妹子认为存在的 90+的男人认为不存在
如果这个世界有鬼存在的话，我就会相信有红颜知己存在。
1. Lead-in
Case 1 I’ve not
considered marriage yet.
How could you explain to Li Hua’s parents about
the relationship between Li Hua and John? How
could you explain to John Li Hua’s parents’
behavior?
comment
• The case shows man and woman’s
different attitudes toward their
relationship, and the parents’ attitudes
regarding children’s love and marriage in
Chinese culture.
• To John 6 months not lead to marriage
• To Li Hua time to bring John to meet
parents
• To Li Hua’s parents treat John as a
future son-in-law
background marriage plans
misunderstanding
conflict
Case 2 Can we talk about us?
This shows a common type of clash in crossgender communication.
For women, their relationship is a popular topic,
while for men, it is not a focus. Men use talk to
solve problems rather than to enhance their
relationship.
Women think if they are talking with each other,
then everything is going smoothly.
For Ben, Anna’s suggestion to talk about their
relationship is pointless. For Anna, Ben’s
reluctance and lack of interest in talking simply
hurt her feelings.
Case 3 Feeling left –out
In public, the norms of expressing one’s feelings
and affections toward the opposite sex varies
across culture. In Asia and some countries
around the Mediterranean Sea, it is acceptable
to have body contact between the same sex in
public, but not between the opposite sexes,
especially in front of the friends. Chen left
because he felt awkward witnessing them
hugging and kissing. This shows that Dick
knows nothing about the natural response of
the Chinese to certain behaviors. Similarly,
Chen Liang’s behavior shows that he is also in
the dark about American behaviors.
2. Text Study
Please read Sex and Gender in your textbook
from page 119 to 120 and answer the following
questions.
1.What is sex? And what is gender?
2. What is the difference between sex and
gender?
• Sex is determined by genetic codes that
program biological features.
• Man woman
Indicate sexual identities
• Male female
Gender is more complex than sex.
masculine and feminine
sex
gender
biological
socially constructed
permanent
varied over time and
individual property across cultures
social and relational
quality
Sex is determined by genetics and biology,
while gender is produced by society.
Please read Feminine and Masculine
Communication Cultures in your textbook from
page 120 to 123 and answer the following
questions.
• What are the basic rules of boy’s or girls
interaction?
• What are the differences between
feminine and masculine communication
culture?
Girls’ Games
(unstructured,
cooperative)
• Be cooperative,
collaborative, and
inclusive
• Don’t criticize or outdo
others.
• Pay attention to other’s
feelings and needs
Boy’s games
(more structured,
large,
individualized)
• Assert yourself.
• Focus on outdoors.
• Be competitive.
Summary
• Girls’ games occur within a gender
culture that emphasizes cooperation,
sensitivity toward others, and experience
more than outcome.
• Boys’ games emphasize achievement,
both for the team and for the individual
members.
Differences between Feminine and
Masculine Communication Culture
Feminine Talk
1.Use talk to build
and sustain rapport
with others.
2. Share yourself and
learn about others
through disclosing
3. Use talk to create
symmetry or equality
between people
Masculine Talk
1. Use talk to assert
yourself and your
ideas.
2. Personal
disclosures can
make you
vulnerable
3. Use talk to establish
your status and
power
4. Matching experiences 4. Matching experiences
with others shows
is a competitive
understanding and
strategy to command
empathy
attention.
5. To support others,
5. To support others, do
express
something helpful
understanding of their 6. Don’t share the talk
feelings.
stage with others, wrest
6. Include others in
it from them with
conversation by
communication.
asking their opinions
Interrupt others to make
and encouraging them
your own points.
to elaborate.
7. Keep the conversation
going by asking questions
and showing interest in
others’ ideas.
8. Be responsive. Let others
know you hear and care
about what they say.
9. Be tentative so that others
feel free to add their ideas.
10. Talking is a human
relationship in which
details and interesting side
comments enhance
depth of connection
7. Each person is on her or
his own; it’s not your job to
help others join in.
8. Use responses to make
your own points and to
outshine others.
9. Be assertive so others
perceive you as confident
and in command.
10. Talking is a linear
sequence that should
convey information and
accomplish goals.
Four Examples
• What counts as support?
• Tricky feedback
• Expressing care
• I’d rather do it myself.
Six Principles
• Suspend judgement.
• Recognize the validity of different
communication styles
• Provide translation cues.
• Seek translation cues.
• Enlarge your own communication style
• Suspend judgement