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Thinking and Communicating
“The Spiritual Life is Thinking!”
(R.B. Thieme, Jr.)
Think
• 1 Cor 14:20 (2) Brothers, do not be children in
your thinking. Be infants in evil, but in your
thinking be mature.
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Think
• Definition | Concise Oxford English
Dictionary
• think
• v. (past and past part. thought)
• 1 have a particular opinion, belief, or
idea about someone or something.
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Think
• Definition | Concise Oxford English Dictionary
• think
• 2
use one’s mind actively to form connected ideas
about someone or something.
• † have a particular mental attitude.
• † (think of/about) take into account or consideration.
• † (think of/about) consider the possibility or
advantages of.
• † (think of) call to mind.
• 3
(think of) have a specified opinion of.
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Think
• Rom 12:3 For by the grace given to me I say
to everyone among you not to think of himself
more highly than he ought to think, but to think
with sober judgment, each according to the
measure of faith that God has assigned.
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Think
• Phil 3:15 Let those of us who are mature
think this way, and if in anything you think
otherwise, God will reveal that also to you.
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Think
• 27.4 εἰς ἐπίγνωσιν ἔρχομαιa: (an idiom, literally
‘to come into knowledge’) to acquire information
about something, with emphasis upon the
process involved—‘to learn about, to find out, to
come to know.’
• ὃς πάντας ἀνθρώπους θέλει σωθῆναι καὶ εἰς
ἐπίγνωσιν ἀληθείας ἐλθεῖν ‘who wants all people
to be saved and to learn the truth’ 1 Tm 2.4. It is
also possible to treat the phrase εἰς ἐπίγνωσιν
ἔρχομαι as meaning ‘to come to know’ in the
sense of ‘to come to understand’.
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Think
• 27.5 ὁράωf; συνοράωa: to acquire information,
with focus upon the event of perception—‘to
learn about, to find out about.’
• ὁράωf: ἐραύνησον καὶ ἴδε ὅτι ἐκ τῆς Γαλιλαίας
προφήτης οὐκ ἐγείρεται ‘search and learn that
from Galilee no prophet ever arises’ Jn 7.52.
• συνοράωa : συνιδόντες κατέφυγον εἰς τὰς πόλεις
τῆς Λυκαονίας ‘when they learned about it, they
fled to cities in Lycaonia’ Ac 14.6.
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Think
• 27.6 ἀφοράωb: to acquire information, with
focus presumably upon the source of such
information—‘to learn about, to find out about.’
τοῦτον μὲν οὖν ἐλπίζω πέμψαι ὡς ἂν ἀφίδω τὰ
περὶ ἐμὲ ἐξαυτῆς ‘I hope to send him (to you),
then, as soon as I can learn how things are going
to turn out for me’ Php 2.23.
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Think
• 27.7 καθοράω: to acquire definite information,
and with focus upon the process of perception—
‘to learn about, to perceive clearly.’
• τὰ γὰρ ἀόρατα αὐτοῦ ἀπὸ κτίσεως κόσμου τοῖς
ποιήμασιν νοούμενα καθορᾶται ‘for since the
creation of the world, his invisible qualities have
been clearly perceived, being understood from
what has been made’ Ro 1.20.3
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Think
• 27.8 ἐπιγινώσκωc: to acquire information,
probably in a somewhat more exact or detailed
form and perhaps with focus upon what is
learned (compare 27.2)—‘to learn about, to find
out about.’ ἐπιγνοῦσα ὅτι κατάκειται ἐν τῇ οἰκίᾳ
τοῦ Φαρισαίου ‘she found out that he was eating
in the Pharisee’s house’ Lk 7.37; ἐπέγνωμεν ὅτι
Μελίτη ἡ νῆσος καλεῖται ‘then we learned that
the island was called Malta’ Ac 28.1.
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Think
• ἐπιγινώσκωc also occurs in legal contexts referring to
careful investigation and interrogation: εἴπας μάστιξιν
ἀνετάζεσθαι αὐτὸν ἵνα ἐπιγνῷ δἰ ἣν αἰτίαν οὕτως
ἐπεφώνουν αὐτῷ ‘he told them to whip him to ascertain
why they (the Jews) were screaming like this against
him’
• Ac 22.24; βουλόμενός τε ἐπιγνῶναι τὴν αἰτίαν δἰ ἣν
ἐνεκάλουν αὐτῷ κατήγαγον εἰς τὸ συνέδριον αὐτῶν ‘I
wanted to find out what they were accusing him of, so I
took him down to their Council’ Ac 23.28.4
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Think
• 27.9 ἀκριβόω: to acquire information in an
exact and accurate manner or to acquire
information which is exact and accurate—‘to
learn exactly, to find out accurately, to ascertain.’
τότε Ηρῴδης λάθρᾳ καλέσας τοὺς μάγους
ἠκρίβωσεν παῤ αὐτῶν τὸν χρόνον τοῦ
φαινομένου ἀστέρος ‘so Herod called the
visitors from the east to a secret meeting and
from them found out exactly what time the star
had appeared’ Mt 2.7
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Think
• 31.1 φρονέωc; κρίνωd; λογίζομαιc; ἡγέομαιa;
ἔχωc: to hold a view or have an opinion with
regard to something—‘to hold a view, to have an
opinion, to consider, to regard.’
• φρονέωc : ἐγὼ πέποιθα εἰς ὑμᾶς ἐν κυρίῳ ὅτι
οὐδὲν ἄλλο φρονήσετε ‘our union in the Lord
makes me confident that you will not take a
different view’ Ga 5.10.
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Think
• 31.8 πλανάω; πλάνηa, ης f: (figurative
extensions of meaning of πλανάω ‘to cause to
wander off the path,’ not occurring in the NT) to
cause someone to hold a wrong view and thus be
mistaken—‘to mislead, to deceive, deception, to
cause to be mistaken.’2
• πλανάω: βλέπετε μή τις ὑμᾶς πλανήσῃ ‘watch
out, and do not let anyone deceive you’ Mt 24.4;
πλανῶντες καὶ πλανώμενοι ‘deceiving others
and being deceived themselves’ 2 Tm 3.13.
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Think
• πλάνηa : ἐκ τούτου γινώσκομεν τὸ πνεῦμα τῆς
ἀληθείας καὶ τὸ πνεῦμα τῆς πλάνης ‘this is the way we
know the difference between the Spirit which leads to
truth and the spirit that misleads us’ or ‘ … causes us to
hold a wrong view’ or ‘ … causes us to be mistaken’ 1
Jn 4.6.
• To mislead people as to proper views which they should
have may often be expressed idiomatically, for
example, ‘to twist people’s thoughts,’ ‘to cause what is
false to seem like what is true,’ ‘to make a lie appear
true,’ ‘to dig away the truth,’ or ‘to cover the eyes with
lies.’
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Think
• 31.33 ἐκζήτησις, εως f: to form ideas which are
unrelated to reality, normally with a negative
connotation—‘speculation, worthless
speculation, imaginings.’
• αἵτινες ἐκζητήσεις παρέχουσιν ‘these promote
worthless speculations’ 1 Tm 1.4. It is also
possible to understand ἐκζήτησις in 1 Tm 1.4 as
meaning ‘controversies’ or ‘arguments’ (see
33.442).
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Think
• 30.17 ἀναβαίνω ἐπὶ καρδίαν: (an idiom, literally
‘to arise in the heart’) to begin to think about
something—‘to begin to think, to think, to have a
thought occur to someone.’
• ἐπὶ καρδίαν ἀνθρώπου οὐκ ἀνέβη ‘what no one
ever thought could happen’ 1 Cor 2.9.
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Know
• 2 Pet 3:17 You therefore, beloved,
knowing this beforehand, take care that
you are not carried away with the error
of lawless people and lose your own
stability.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• “CRUCIAL CONVERSATIONS: TOOLS FOR
TALKING WHEN STAKES ARE HIGH is a book
by four cofounders of a corporate consulting firm
who present their formula for effective
communication.
• The book is based on the trial and error of years
spent as corporate trainers made from observing
literally thousands of people from all walks of life,
as well as employees across major industries.”
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• TOOLS FOR TALKING WHEN STAKES
ARE HIGH
• For Believers, the Stakes are Always High:
• 1. My Witness to All
• 2. My Ministry to the Few
• 3. My Godliness to the One
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• “What the authors found among certain
people was a willingness to speak up when
they objected, addressing issues head-on
rather than giving the silent treatment, and
diving into potentially risky discussions
without fear.”
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• “Underneath these topics run the same
main point - think twice before speaking.
• Care and thought are needed to make a
crucial conversation work.”
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• “‘Crucial’ conversations are interpersonal
exchanges at work or at home, that we
dread having but know we cannot avoid.
How do you say what needs to be said
while avoiding an argument? Day-to-day
conversations and interactions affect your
life. Crucial conversations can have a
profound impact on your career, your
happiness, and your future.”
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• “When stakes are high, opinions vary, and
emotions run strong, you have three
choices:
• Avoid a crucial conversation and suffer the
consequences;
• handle them poorly and suffer the
consequences; or
• handle them well … and discover how to
communicate when it matters the most.”
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• “If you normally handle tense situations by
running the other way, screaming or
slamming the door, this book will help you
develop constructive habits that will leave
you feeling better about yourself. With the
skills, you learn in this book, you'll never
have to agonize about the outcome of a
crucial conversation again.”
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Principle 1: Start with Heart
• Stay focused on what you really want and
maintain dialogue.
• Learn what dialogue is and how to work on
me first.
• Understand how motives change when
conversations turn crucial.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Principle 2: Learn to Look
• Spot the warning signs that indicate safety is at
risk.
• Notice various forms of silence and violence.
• Take steps to rebuild safety and return to
dialogue.
• Step out of a conversation and notice how to
make it work.
• Identify your own Style Under Stress™ and
manage it.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Principle 3: Make It Safe
• Talk about almost anything—without silence and
violence.
• Increase candor and decrease defensiveness
• Use specific skills to keep everyone sharing
information.
• Establish and maintain mutual purpose and
mutual respect.
• Recognize when you are at cross-purposes.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Principle 4: Master My Stories
• Stay in dialogue and learn how to master emotions
that destroy dialogue when you are angry, scared, or
hurt—“think” your way to the root cause of negative
emotions.
• Discover your stories—how do you justify
your behavior?
• Eliminate victim, villain, and helpless
stories, and improve your results.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Principle 5: STATE My Path
• Speak persuasively, not abrasively.
• Get your meaning across even with
potentially threatening messages.
• Share strong opinions without shutting
down contrary views.
• State your mind while making it safe for
others to do the same.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Principle 6: Explore Others’ Paths
• Use exploring skills to make it safe for others to
speak up.
• Diffuse others’ violence and eliminate silence keep listening when others blow up or clam up.
• Encourage others to share issues they fear
bringing up.
• Get safely to the meaning behind others’
emotions.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Principle 7: Move to Action
• Put Crucial Conversations principles and
skills together.
• Learn how to make decisions and improve
accountability
• Move from healthy dialogue to taking
action and achieving results.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• This guidebook provides an approach to
those conversations in life that are both
difficult and necessary.
• The authors give you the tools you need to
step up to life's difficult and important
conversations, say what's on your mind,
and achieve positive outcomes.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• By outlining specific strategies that can
create mutual respect and understanding,
they seek to open channels of
communication, which would otherwise
remain barred
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• “The techniques are geared toward getting people
to lower their defenses, creating mutual respect
and understanding, increasing emotional safety,
and encouraging freedom of expression.
• Among other things, readers also learn about the
factors that characterize crucial conversations,
and the technique that prepares them to work
through any high impact situation with
confidence.”
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Thinking - thinking refers to the process of
creating a structured series of connective
transactions between items of perceived
information.
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Understanding Effective
Communication
• Metacognition - metacognition refers to
awareness and control of one's thinking,
including commitment, attitudes and
attention.
• Metacognition: a dimension of thinking
that involves knowledge and control of self
and knowledge and control of process.
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