Transcript Relationship Pyramid PPT

Mature Love
Deepening and
Developing Relationship
Positive Starters
Sex
OneSided
Sex
Meant something only
to one person
Communication
OneSided
Sex
Not so great
Meant something only
to one person
Few Common Interests,
Time Together Not
Much Fun
Communication
OneSided
Sex
Not much
there
Not so great
Meant something only
to one person
Not
really
Doesn’t Feels Like a Friend
Few Common Interests,
Time Together Not
Much Fun
Communication
OneSided
Sex
Not much
there
Not so great
Meant something only
to one person
You Have No Commitment/Trust
None
Not
really
Doesn’t Feels Like a Friend
Few Common Interests
Time Together Not
Much Fun
Communication
OneSided
Sex
Not much
there
Not so great
Meant something only
to one person
Inverted Relationship Pyramid
YOU HAVE NO COMMITMENT, NO TRUST!
Doesn’t Feel Like a Friend
Few Common Interests;Time
Together Not Much Fun
Communication
Not Great
One-Sided
Relationship
SEX
Not Really
Mature
No
Development
No Foundation
No Positive Starters
INFORMATION ALL TEENS SHOULD KNOW:
• Most first-time sexual relationships are romantic but short-lived.
8 out of 10 first-time sexual relationships last six months or less.
¼ are one time occurrences.
• Surveys of sexually active teens reveal that the majority wish
they’d waited. More than 7 out of 10 girls and more than 5 out of
10 boys surveyed say this.
• The Centers for Disease Control collects data on teens every
two years on sexual and other behaviors. The number of teens
who have had sexual intercourse has declined 14% in the last
decade. 47% percent of 15 to 19-year-old teens report they have
had sexual intercourse. These are averages and obviously there
are significant differences among different teens.
INFORMATION ALL TEENS SHOULD KNOW:
• More than half of all teens (ages 15-19 years) have NOT had
sexual intercourse, and of the half that have, most wish they
had waited.
• Unfortunately, the half who have not had sexual intercourse
sometimes think they are out of it because they believe
“everybody’s doing it.” In reality, “everybody is not doing it.”
• Moreover, some teens—especially boys because of social
pressures—lie about having had sex. Even those who brag
about how many people they have had sex with often are not
having sex at all.
INFORMATION ALL TEENS SHOULD KNOW:
• We also know from surveys that boys show significant
respect—though often unspoken—for girls who resist
pressure to have sex and remain virgins. And, girls have
respect for guys who are not “players.”
• Many teens believe it is okay for a couple to have sex if they
feel they are in love. The problem here is that the “feelings”
of love may not yet be real love. The “love chemicals” could
be surging, it could be more about lust and less about love.
Further, one could have an unrealistic concept of what real
love really is.
Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.
Slide 3.21
The Brain Chemistry of Love
For weeks or months you get a big shot of the “love
chemicals.” Those chemicals make it easy to slide into
risky or poor relationship and sexual choices.
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PROBLEM BEHAVIORS
• Lies
• Controls people
• Uses people
• Takes advantage
• Sees self as victim
• Very negative
• Extremely moody
• Blames others always
• Changes just to please
others.
• Angry & aggressive
• Abuses substances
• Cheats, untrustworthy
• Not committed to
school
• In trouble with the law
Or, you’re just not in sync; you’ve
changed your mind…
Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.
The Brain Chemistry of Love
Tip: Enjoy the great feelings….but remember you won’t see clearly
until those chemicals settle down a bit. Make the focus be on
getting to know the person, having fun. Go slow—go smart!
Is it LOVE or is it …
IN
F AT
U A T I O N?