Transcript Marriage In Judaism - Year 11-12 Studies of Religion 2Unit 2013-4

Marriage
in
Judaism
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 Marriage is considered to be the ideal state for everyone. The bible changed marriage from an option to a
mitzvah (good deed…literally a commandment) Tradition believes that G-d is the matchmaker for every
wedding, and the bride and groom are destined for each other from the time preceding their birth.
 Essentially both orthodox and reform marriage services are the same.
 There is a custom that the bride presents the groom with a tallit (prayer shawl) on the wedding day. One of the
reasons is that there are 32 fringes on it and this number is the numerical equivalent of the Hebrew word lev
(heart)…What a romantic notion!
 The kallah (bride) and chattan (groom) are not supposed to see each other for a period of time before the
wedding (anywhere from a day to a week). The bride may also visit a mikvah (bath house) for cleansing.
Observant Jews follow the law that bride and groom fast on the wedding day until after the ceremony. In this
way the holy day is compared to a day when we examine our past actions with a goal of self-improvement and
a day on which we commit ourselves to be better human beings in the future.
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 Before the ceremony there is a “veiling” called the ‘badeken’. The groom is led to the
room where the bride is seated and places the veil over her eyes. The biblical basis for
this is the story of Jacob where his father-in-law Laban fooled him by switching Leah
for Rachel before the wedding…the moral to this story is that “A Jew may be fooled
once, but for the next thousands of years he’ll be sure not to make the same mistake
again”
 Some reform congregations have the badeken in front of the congregation before the
ceremony
 The ceremony begins with the signing of the wedding document
(called the KETUBAH) in front of two witnesses. These witnesses are
not to be blood relatives. In the Ketubah the groom promises to
support his wife and to provide for her if they are divorced or he dies
before her.
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The ceremony itself takes place under a canopy called a
CHUPPAH. The chuppah symbolises the new home about to be
created. The chuppah is usually cloth or floral and supported
by four poles. It can be used indoors or outdoors.
The chuppah can be inside or outside and is often supported by
four friends of the bride and groom
Some examples of
chuppahs…
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 The bride circles the groom 7 times. In doing so, the bride demonstrates she is entering the seven
spheres of her beloved’s soul. When the bride arrives at the chuppah she
circles the groom seven times with her mother and future mother-inlaw, while the groom continues to pray. This symbolizes the idea of
the woman being a protective, surrounding light of the household,
that illuminates it with understanding and love from within and
protects it from harm from the outside.
 The number seven parallels the seven days of creation, and
symbolizes the fact that the bride and groom are about to create
their own "new world" together. She also shows she has captured the heart of her
beloved just as Joshua captured the city of Jericho by marching around it 7 times.
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 The round ring with its circular shape is a symbol of eternity. It is placed on the
first finger of the right hand.
 The engagement and the wedding are performed under the chuppah. Both involve
blessings over a cup of wine, (a symbol of joy and gladness). One blessing is for the
wine and the other is to bless the commitment the bride and groom make to each
other. Bride and groom drink from the same cup to show that their lives will now
be joined together and they will evermore share in whatever the cup of life has to
offer them.
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 The breaking of the glass by the groom ends the ceremony. Some claim
it is the last time the husband will ever get a chance to put his foot
down now that he’s married! There are a couple of reasons for this…
1. the breaking of the glass reminds us that in rejoicing we must also
remember the Jewish people’s catastrophes over time. In modern terms no
matter how happy we are, we dare not forget the Holocaust.
2. the fact another generation has signaled its commitment to Jewish
continuity “shatters” the hopes of those who planned Jewish genocide.
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 There is one last tradition which follows after the guests shout “Mazeltov” and the
bride and groom realise they are now husband and wife. It is generally followed by
the more observant Jews that instead of mingling with guests, the mitzvah of
Yichud, (togetherness alone) demands that the bride and groom go off to a private
room to spend some time with just each other. Judaism hopes to accomplish from
this ritual a sense of :
“Be concerned with your mate from now on more than with others.”
Mazeltov!