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PROFILE
RAHEEMA FAMUYIWA, IS A GRADUATE OF THE
UNIVERSITY OF LAGOS WITH A DEGREE IN
ACTUARIAL SCIENCES.
SHE HAS WORKED AT THE NIGERIAN ARMY AS A
DATA CELL OFFICER, DEEN COMMUNICATIONS LTD
AS A SALES REPRESENTATIVE, HEAD, INTERNAL
ADMINISTRATION AND CUSTOMER RELATIONS OF
MATRIX CONCEPT LTD, A PRINTING OUTFIT AND IS
PRESENTLY WORKING WITH ETISALAT .
ON THE SIDE, RAHEEMAH RUNS "COVERED
PEARLS", A MUSLIMAH BEAUTY PARLOUR TO CATER
TO THE MOST PRECIOUS CLIENTELE, "THE
MUSLIMAH"
DATING & MY
NIKAAH…
By
Raheemah Famuyiwa
DATING AND COURTSHIP IN ISLAM- DISCUSSIONS
 How do I get to know the one I want to marry?
 Can I invite him to my home in the prescence of my Mum or siblings?
 What is permissible in Islam?
DATING AND COURTSHIP IN ISLAM
 Umar (RA) related that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Not one
of you should meet a woman alone unless she is accompanied by a relative
(mahram)" (Bukhari/Muslim).
 The Prophet (peace be upon him) also reportedly said, "Whenever a man is alone with
a woman, Satan (Shaytan) is the third among them" (Tirmidhi). When young people
are getting to know each other, being alone together is a temptation toward
wrongdoing.
At all times, Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an (24:30-31) to "lower
their gaze and guard their modesty...." Islam recognizes that we are human and are
given to human weakness, so this rule provides safeguards for our own sake.
MY NIKAAH -DISCUSSIONS
Planning:
 Meeting the prospective parents
 Pregnancies before Marriage (Scenarios)
 Engagement/Introduction/Traditional Marriage; their place.
 Myths of Weddings
MY NIKAAH -DISCUSSIONS
 My White Wedding
 Wedding Cake
 My ring
 My Gown
 Permissables within the deen
 Finances
 What if…..(Family, friends pressure)
MY NIKAAH –INSHA ALLAH
 What is an Aqdun?
The Aqdun is the formal pronouncement of the existence of
a Marriage between two consenting individuals in the
prescence of a Wali for the bride, where the terms of the
Marriage contract (if there’s one) is formalised.
The couple are deemed to be married when this is done.
MY NIKAAH –INSHA ALLAH
 The Mahr
Mahr is a mandatory gift given by the groom to the bride. Unlike a
bride price, however, it is given directly to the bride and not to
her father. Although the gift is often money, it can be anything
agreed upon by bride and groom such as a house or viable
business that is put in her name and can be run and owned
entirely by her if she chooses.
When is it given?
MY NIKAAH –INSHA ALLAH
 The Marriage Contract
A Muslim marriage is not a sacrament, but a simple, legal
agreement in which either partner is free to include conditions.
These conditions are stipulated in a written contract. Violating
any of the conditions stipulated in this contract is legal grounds
for a partner seeking divorce. The first part of the Nikah, marriage
ceremony is the signing of the marriage contract itself.
Do we need to go to the Courts?
MY NIKAAH –DISCUSSIONS.. CHECKING LEARNING
THE NORM
ISLAM
 The Walima
 The gown
 The hall decor
 The Imams
 The brothers suits
 The bridal train
 The signing of the
Contract
 Exposing the bride
 Walking down the aisle
 The couple dance
JAZAKALLAHU
KHAIRAN
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