the importance of family support and good self-care
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Patricia Matestic, Ph.D.
Director & Clinical Psychologist
University of Washington Autism Center Tacoma (UW-ACT)
Lewis County Autism Coalition Conference
October 16, 2015
About Me
Grew up as a military brat – father in USAF
Moved to Tacoma in 1985 – South Sound “native”
Education & Training
UW, Univ. of Pittsburgh, Seattle Children’s, Madigan
Army Medical Center, UW-ACT
My autism experience and expertise
Personal interests
Travel, gardening, binge watching series, hiking,
cooking
Overview
Autism Spectrum Disorders – an overview
Processing the diagnosis
Changes to the parental role
Impact of caring for a child with ASD
Parental stress implications
Barriers to self-care
How to practice good self-care
Self-care tips
Resources
Autism Spectrum Disorders:
An Overview
Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)
A neurodevelopmental disorder with lifelong impact on
multiple domains of functioning
Social communication – verbal & nonverbal
Social interaction
Restricted and repetitive behaviors and interests
May include unique skills or strengths
Physical and Medical Problems
which often Co-Occur with Autism
Genetic Disorders
Seizures
Gastrointestinal Disorders
Chronic constipation
Reflux
Sleep difficulties
Sensory Integration Difficulties
Pica
Processing the Diagnosis
Grief Reaction
Range of emotions & mixed feelings:
Shock
Sadness
Anger
Denial
Loneliness
Acceptance
Different for everyone
When do you need professional help?
Changes in Parenting Role
Mothers may :
Feel overwhelmed with everyday responsibilities
Feel pressure to become autism expert
Worry about family’s future
Have difficulty finding life balance
Changes in Parenting Role
Fathers may:
Be less inclined to share feelings
Become stressed about family’s finances
and unknowns of situation
Worry about child’s long term future
Develop other problems (i.e., stress/anxiety) which affect
work, marriage
Issues for siblings
Siblings may
Not understand what is wrong with their sibling.
Have feelings of jealousy/resentment
Feel angry over unequal treatment over discipline and
chores
Feel embarrassment with friends or in community
setting over sibling’s behaviors
Feel frustrated they are unable to get their sibling to
respond or interact with them in “normal” ways
Worry about family members
The Impact of Caring for
a Child with ASD
Increased parental stress as compared to parents of
typical developing children or children with other
developmental disabilities (Estes, et. al., 2009; Baker et. al., 2002;
Dumas et. al., 1991).
More symptoms of anxiety & depression (Dunn et al., 2001;
Dumas et al., 1991).
Less psychological well-being (Abbeduto et al., 2004).
Less marital satisfaction (Konstantareas & Homatidis, 1989).
Job related stress and career limitations (Montes &
Halterman, 2008).
Limited family outings and vacations (Hutton & Caron,
2005)
Factors Associated with
Parental Stress
Severity of ASD symptoms
Child characteristics
Age of child
Intellectual ability
Adaptive skills (e.g., toileting, bathing, dressing)
ADHD symptoms
Behavior problems (e.g., aggression)
Caretaking demands
Lack of therapeutic resources
Negative Outcomes of
Parental Stress
Increased health risks
Decreased well-being & life satisfaction
Less present for your child/family
Impacts parenting skills
Does not model healthy coping skills for your children
Higher parental stress shown to reduce effectiveness of
early teaching intervention programs (Osbourne et al.,
2008).
IF YOU WANT TO TAKE CARE OF
YOUR FAMILY …
YOU MUST FIRST TAKE CARE OF
YOURSELF!!!
Common Barriers to Self-care
Guilt
Time management – how to prioritize
Lack of additional support
Financial constraints
Limited knowledge or information
Self-efficacy
How to care for yourself
Practice good self-care
Ask yourself where does my support and strength come
from?
How am I really doing?
What do I need?
Do I know who to ask for help?
Give yourself time to adjust
Continue family rituals
Talk to family and friends
Self-care tips:
Start with the basics:
Sleep
Exercise
Nutrition
Find your Bliss
The Big List of Pleasurable Activities
Improve the Moment Skills
Quick things to make a moment better
Improve the Moment
Imagery – imagine relaxing scenes, imagine things going
well, imagine difficult emotion draining out of your body
Meaning – find some purpose for situation. Make lemons
out of lemonade
Prayer – turn things over to your higher power; utilize
religion
Relaxation – tense and relax large muscle groups, exercise
hard, take a hot bath, drink warm beverage, breathe deeply,
create a relaxation plan
One thing in the moment - Focus your entire attention on
just what you are doing right now. Keep yourself in the
moment, mind in the present
Self-soothe using your 5 senses
Taste – have a good meal, tea, coffee, smoothie, treat
yourself to dessert, put whipped cream on your hot
chocolate or coffee
Touch – Take a bubble bath, have a massage, soak your
feet/pedicure, put lotion on your whole body
Vision – buy one beautiful flower, enjoy nature, fix your
nails, look at pictures in a book
Hearing – Listen to soothing music, books on tape, pay
attention to sounds of nature (bird songs, rain, leaves
rustling)
Smell – use your favorite perfume or lotion, spray
fragrance in the air, light a scented candle, bake cookies
More Self-care Tips
Utilize respite care or childcare options
Explore interests outside of autism
Therapy – individual, parenting, marital
Focus on positive
Get involved with Autism Community
Form a Support Network
Building a Support Network –
Marital Relationship
Keeping Your Marriage Strong
Communicate!
Talk openly about problems
Be kind to yourself and your spouse
Work together
Stay in the present
Spend time together
Share responsibilities at home
Get help if you need it
Building a Support Network –
Sibling Support
Provide siblings with resources to better understand
autism
Help siblings learn how to play and form relationships
with their brother or sister. For example, show them
how to get their brother or sister’s attention.
Find local sibling support groups (e.g., sib shops)
Provide quality alone time with parents
Consult a professional, if needed
Building a Support Network –
Friends and Community
Extended family – move closer to family for extra
support
Nurture friendships
Faith based support - church
Social Networking –find support online
Local support groups
Recreational programs for children with autism
Resources - websites
National Autism Support Agencies:
Autism Speaks
www.autismspeaks.org
Autism Society
www.autism-society.org
Local Autism Support Agencies:
PAVE – Partnerships for Action, Voices for Empowerment
www.wapave.org
FEAT – Family for Effective Autism Treatment
www.featwa.org
ARC – For people with intellectual and developmental disabilities
www.thearc.org
WAAA – Washington Autism Alliance and Advocacy
Legal counsel and advice; www.washingtonautismadvocacy.org
Autism Outreach Project
www.nwesd.org/autism
Exceptional Families Network –
www.exceptional-families.org
Lewis County Autism Coalition–
www.lcautism.org
Resources – online support groups
www.myautismteam.com
http://www.treatmentdiaries.com/
http://specialneedsmomsformoms.com/
http://mdjunction.com
Yahoo groups – Autism lifespan project
[email protected]
The Square Peg Social Club Adult Asperger’s and
Other Misfits
http://www.meetup.com/squarepegs/
Resources - books
The Autism Mom's Survival Guide (for Dads, too!): Creating a Balanced and
Happy Life While Raising a Child with Autism by Susan Senator
More Than a Mom by Amy Baskin and Heather Fawcett
Finding Our Way: Practical Solutions for Creating a Supportive Home and
Community for the Asperger Syndrome Family by Kristi Sakai
Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid: A Survival Guide for Ordinary Parents of Special
Children by Gina Gallagher and Patricia Konjoia
Helping Your Child with Autism Spectrum Disorder: A Step-By-Step Workbook for
Families by Locksin, Gillis, and Romanczyk
Thoughts and Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life by McKay,
Davis, and Fanning
The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook by Davis, Eshelman, and McKay
Questions
My Contact Info:
Patti Matestic, Ph.D.
Director & Clinical Psychologist
University of Washington Autism Center- Tacoma
Office: (253) 692-4719; Fax: (253) 692-4718
Email: [email protected]
http://uwautism.org