Transcript The 7 Habit Signature 3.2 PPT - Orange Elementary Leader In Me

Welcome Back
Our END IN MIND for Tonight
• Review Week 1
• Habit 3 – Put First Things First
• Private Victory
• Habit 7 – Sharpen the Saw
WHY YOUR HABITS MATTER
YOU are the
core!
ME – WE – US!
Foundation
1
God grant me the serenity to accept
the people I cannot change,
the courage to change the one I can,
and the wisdom to know,
it’s ME!
Ready, Set, Recall
1.Maturity Continuum (Me/We/Us)
2.Paradigms (See – Do – Get)
3.Circle of Influence/Circle of Concern
4.Key Roles – Tribute Statements
5.Personal Mission Statement
6.Head/Heart/Feet ACTION Step
Paradigms – Video – 3:48
See
Paradigm
Do
Behavior
Result
Foundation
Get
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Quick List
Step 1
Write down 5-6 things
you do with your time
Save this card for later…
Habit 3
Put First
Things First
You can’t build a reputation on
what you’re going to do.
- Henry Ford
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Don’t waste your breath
proclaiming what’s really
important to you. How you
spend your time says it all.
-Eric Zorn
End In Mind for H3
• Time Matrix
• Big Rocks
• Time management
Prep for H2 Writing & Living Mission
Statement
Habit 3: Put First Things First – p. 62
Habit
3
Put First Things First
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Habit 3—Paradigms
Ineffective: I put urgent things first.
Driven by crises, pressure
Effective: I put important things first.
Driven by priorities and importance
Habit
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Put First Things First
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Paradigm
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Organization
Productivity
Follow through
“Get things done”
Reputation
Result
Habit
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Put First Things First
Effectiveness
requires the
integrity to act on
your priorities.
Priorities and importance drive
Focus and plan
Rid unimportance
Behavior
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Purpose
(p. 64)
BIG IDEA: Where you are headed is way more
important than how fast you are going
Video
The Time
Matrix
3:57
Habit
3
Put First Things First
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The Time Matrix p. 65
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NECESSITY
EFFECTIVENESS
III
IV
DECEPTION
Habit
3
Put First Things First
WASTE AND
EXCESS
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Live North of the Line
• Crises
• Pressing problems
• Deadline-driven
projects, meetings,
reports
• Preparation
• Prevention
• Planning
• Relationship building
• Re-creation
• Values clarification
Live North
of the Line
• Needless
interruptions
• Unnecessary
reports
• Unimportant
meetings, phone
calls, mail, e-mail
• Other people’s
minor issues
Habit
3
Put First Things First
• Trivia, busywork
• Irrelevant phone
calls, mail, e-mail
• Time-wasters
• “Escape” activities
• Excessive TV,
Internet, relaxation
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xQ Tells You…
What percentage of
their time do workers spend
“below the line”?
40%
Habit
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Put First Things First
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Time Matrix
At your table (# off 1-4)
Use p. 65, 66 & handout
a) Review your quadrant
b) ID Activities
c) ID Feelings
d) ID long-term impact
e) ID Insights
What can you do to “live N of the line”?
a.k.a. Eliminate the Unimportant
And a reminder to the “people pleasers…”
Building QII Capacity
BIG ROCKS VIDEO
4:01
Big Rocks
Habit
3
Put First Things First
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Reminder: Big Rocks
• Come from:
– Conscience
– Mission
– Goals
– Key projects
p. 69
• Can be:
– Tasks
– Appointments
– Areas of focus
– Relationships
Quick List
Step 2
Which quadrants do your
activities fall into?
Are the activities you noted
“BIG ROCKS”?
Tips for Weekly Planning
P. 67
When?
Where?
How Long?
Habit
3
Put First Things First
Before the week begins.
Someplace quiet.
20–30 minutes.
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Plan Weekly
1. Review mission and roles.
2. Choose BIG rocks.
Ask – What is most important thing I can do
this week in that role?
3. Schedule the week.
I add 2 more steps…
4. Execute My Day (Visualize)
5. Review previous 2 weeks
Habit
3
Put First Things First
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Weekly Compass
p. 68
Project Manager
Parent
Spouse
Friend
Habit
3
Put First Things First
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What Is the Most Important Thing?
What is the
most
important
thing I can do
in this role this
week?
Project Manager
Finalize budget
Draft meeting agenda
Parent
Attend parent-teacher
conference
Spouse
Date night
Friend
Habit
3
Put First Things First
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What Stuck with You Today
p. 74-75
Put
First
Things
First
Private Victory
To
Public Victory
End in Mind for PTP
• Transition from “me” to “we”
• Emotional bank account
• Investing in each other
Private Victory
to Public Victory
P. 79
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Get it right with
“Me”
Before get it right
with “We”
The Maturity Continuum
Trust
Achieving
results while
working with
others
SelfDiscipline &
follow
through
Trustworthiness
Private Victory to Public Victory
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Emotional Bank Account
The Emotional Bank
Account
Private Victory to Public Victory
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Video
4:59
EBA
One Cartoon at a Time
The Emotional Bank Account
Deposits
• Seek first to understand.
• Show kindness, courtesy,
respect.
• Keep promises.
• Be loyal to the absent.
• Set clear expectations.
• Apologize.
• Give feedback
(“I” messages).
• Forgive.
Private Victory to Public Victory
p. 82
Withdrawals
• Assume you understand.
• Show unkindness, discourtesy,
disrespect.
• Break promises.
• Be disloyal, badmouth.
• Create unclear expectations.
• Be proud and arrogant.
• Give no feedback
or evaluate character
(“you” messages).
• Hold grudges.
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Honoring the Absent
It’s All
About
GRACE!
3:30
Kid President
More deposits= Higher Trust
5:1 rule
Activity
p. 83
5 Love Languages
Modeling: An EBA Strategy
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Use 7 Habits Language
Model leadership
Greetings
Good eye contact
Firm handshakes
Attentively listening
Random acts of
kindness
• Smiling
• Positivity
• Compliments
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Proactive language
Patience
Forgiveness (PRE)
Encouragement
Appropriate humor
Manners
Follow through
Keeping a promise
Honoring other’s time
Teachable moments
Put the phone down!
Pay It Forward
3:19
A Soldier and a Gold Star Kid
Envision and Plan
…. P. 84
Consider ONE person
Generate specific ideas for how you will
give deposits (in their language)
What deposits do you COMMIT to doing
over the next week? Month?
Who can help hold you accountable?
Habit 7
Sharpen
the Saw
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End in Mind for H7
• Renew Regularly
• The 4 Dimensions
• Be Strong in the Hard Moments
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
Encompasses
BOTH the
Private Victory
&
Public Victory
Habit
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Sharpen the Saw
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xQ Tells You…
“I plan activities that allow
me to continuously improve my
performance.”
34%
Habit
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Sharpen the Saw
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Habit 7—Paradigms
See
Ineffective: I’m too busy today to take time
for myself.
Effective: I take time for myself every day
because it gives me the ability to do
everything.
Ever been so busy
driving that you
forget to get gas?
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Sharpen the Saw
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Habit 7—Principle
Paradigm
take time for myself every day
Improved capacity
Strong relationships
Greater reserves
Cont. improvement
Result
Habit
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Sharpen the Saw
To maintain and
increase effectiveness,
we must renew
ourselves in body, heart,
mind, and soul.
Renew
Invest
Behavior
139
The Four Dimensions - BALANCE – All CONNECTED!
BODY
MIND
Habit
HEART
SOUL
Rate yourself in each dimension on a scale from poor to excellent.
7 Sharpen the Saw
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BALANCE
Sharpen the Saw Activity
Identify one activity from each of
the 4 domains…
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Habit
7
Success with
Working toward
Committed to
Want to start
Sharpen the Saw
BE STRONG IN THE
HARD MOMENTS –
30 seconds of
insane courage!
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Video
Habit 7 makes living all the other habits possible.
Daily Private Victory
5:32
In order to live Habits 1-6 effectively,
we need to COMMIT to Sharpen the Saw
Habit
7
Sharpen the Saw
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Habit 7 Sharpen the Saw
Give
yourself
permission
and plan
for it!