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The Heart of Change Stewardship over our heart! Model of Human Behavior Character Matthew 15:18-19 James 4:1-2 Natural Heart Sinful Behavior Our heart is our command center • Who we really are • How we really think • Idols of our heart ------------------------• Pride • Money • Health • Peace • Power • Fear • Marriage • Kid’s behavior What we do? •My Speech •My Actions ----------------•Disobedience Why do we want what we want? State of Being “Emotions” How we feel about what’s going on? •Indicator lights •Warning system -------------------•Frustration •Anxiety •Anger •Arrogance •Depression •Shame •Guilt •Burdens •False sense of happiness Results “Hardships” End result of what we really want? •Please myself •Exalt myself -----------------•Disorder •Every evil thing •Humiliated •Brought low •Experiential death Character Natural Heart Matthew 15:18-19 James 4:1-2 Model of Human Behavior Behavior “Sinful” Our heart is our command center • Heart full of idols • Who we really are • How we really think What we do? •My Speech •My Actions State of Being “Emotions” How we feel about what’s going on? •Indicator lights •Warning system Results “Hardships” End result of what we really want? •Please myself •Exalt myself Character Supernatural Heart 2 Corinthians 5:9 Behavior “Christ-like” Humble & undivided heart • Pleasing God • Glorifying God Progressive sanctification •Obedient Speech •Obedient Actions State of Being “Emotions” Results “Life” •Joy •Peace •Contentment •Rest •Patience •Happiness •God exalts this person •We grow •We gain We do what we do because we want what we want!! • Matthew 15:18-19 • “But the things that proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and those defile the man. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders.” James vs. Matthew • James says one thing- our behavior comes from our desires • Matthew says another – our behavior comes from our hearts What are the intents of the heart?Desires • Hebrews 4:12 • “For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” Proverb 27:19 • “As water reflects a face, so a man’s heart reflects the man.” 2 Criteria that helps us to see when a legitimate desire becomes wrong: • 1. Am I willing to sin in order to get what I want? And • 2. Do I respond sinfully when I do get what I want? Consequence of Conflict • Setting ourselves in opposition to God with our lusts • Now when we are willing to sin to get what we want or respond sinfully when we don’t get what we want, the Bible uses some strong terms for what is going on in our heart. • James 4:4 Why Adultery? • What is physical adultery? • - going outside your relationship with spouse to find pleasure. • What is spiritual adultery? • - going outside of relationship with God to find pleasure. • “The human spirit that dwells in you envies intensely” • You will always be lusting! • You just have two choices to lust after– God or something else. – “just two choices on the shelf, pleasing God or pleasing self” The role that Deception plays in stimulating idolatry • Why do you want what you want? • Gen 3:1-13 • What was the source of the fall according to Gen 3:1; 3:13, I Tim 2:14 • Deception – believing there’s a better way than God’s way. • When the serpent said “Did God really say….” what was he trying to do? • Doubt! • She doubted God’s goodness and ability to bring consequences. Why do you want what you want? • Because were Deceivers and Doubters! • We think there’s a better way! • Deception vs. Truth • Doubt vs. Faith What did doubt lead to? • Gen 3:6 • Desiring/Lust • Remember the heart contains our desires What did the desire lead to? • End of Gen 3:6 • Disobedience/Sin • James 1:14-16 says….. What did Adam and Eve then experience in verses 7,8,10? • Distress – Guilt – Shame – This became their state of being! What did they do with that experience? • Diverting/Ducking • Hide-cover up • We become Master Coverers – Alcohol, Porn, Glutens…… What is your Value System? • Is it ……….. • Matthew 22:37-39 • “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Three Treasure Principles • Matthew 6:19-21 • “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures upon earth where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Principle # 1 Everyone Lives for Some kind of Treasure Principle # 2 The Thing that Is Your Treasure will Control Your Heart Principle # 3 What Controls Your Heart will control Your behavior Let’s talk about Worship • You are a worshiper • Every human being is a worshiper • Worship=dominate theme of scripture • =1st an identity before it’s ever an activity! • What’s is our hearts = Worship Principe # 1 You can’t understand a human relationship unless you look at it through worship. A relationship of unity, understanding, and love is rooted in worship! Principle # 2 Sin causes us to shrink our lives to the size of our lives DNA of Sin • We need to understand the DNA of sin to understand worship. • 2 Cor. 5:14-15 • Romans 1:18-25 Sin • • • • • Always selfish Self focused – My Kingdom Moves us to center of our own universe Is anti-social Self focused little beings! • DNA of Sin is self focus and idolatry • What rules your heart will exercise inescapable influence over your life and behavior (words, actions, choices, decisions!) in situations, locations and relationships where GOD has placed you! Principle # 3 • On this side of heaven, there is always a war going on between two kingdoms. Marriage example • Our marriage is a war zone (deeper war) • When you get bitter and angry it’s war between two kingdoms. • Can’t live in marriage with a peace time mentality. • In war time you par down for the war • Some couples stop working on marriage Marriage example • As long as sin exists in the heart, war will exist. • They both want to win • Always relate to spouse in service of one of two kingdoms • When you respond out of Kingdom of God you encourage spouse to respond that way. Two Lifestyles • Kingdom of Self • Kingdom of God • Manipulation • Ministry • “indulge sinful nature” • “Serve in love” What does a relationship that is rooted in worship look like? Practically this is how it looks! God as Creator (Your hardwiring) Worship God as Sovereign (Your story) God as Savior (Your growth in grace)