Transcript Motivating Employees For Dummies&#174

Beat the Work-Life Blahs
With Optimism and Resilience
Eileen Chadnick, ACPC, ACC, ABC
Big Cheese Coaching
Work-life Blahs?….
DID FEBRUARY START IN
NOVEMBER THIS YEAR?
Today
1. A Word about Work-Life blahs
2. Blah Buster Strategies
3. Q&A
How’s Your Mojo????
Opposite of ‘blahs’ “Happiness”….”Engagement”,
“fulfillment”, “contentment”……
“MOJO!”
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Sense of wellbeing;
All is well……sense of “being alive”
Able to cope with life’s adversity
You are inspired!
Serious Issue…
• Impacts productivity & engagement
• Impacts health and other facets of our life
• Business issue – no longer ‘self help’
• “Happiness economics”: GNH….the new GDP
• Personal….each individual unique
• Positive Psychology…..new generation of researchers
-- focus on happiness (10 years ++)
Poll: Take a moment….
1. Happiness depends on your circumstances. (fully
agree; somewhat agree; disagree)
2. You are either born to be happy or not. It’s part of
your nature. (fully agree; somewhat agree; disagree)
3. You can control your own happiness. Provide a
%_____that you think you can control.
Work-Life Blahs…Triggers
Vortex of Circumstances…..
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February….
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The economy
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The weather….
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Work overload…..
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Stress…
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Toxic boss/environment
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Job loss….insecurity
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Financial issues….
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Personal life…..
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Other….
Work-Life Blahs…
OR….everything is fine… yet
your “Mojo” is down….
Consider This:
YOU HAVE MORE CONTROL OVER YOUR
“MOJO” THAN YOU MAY THINK.
…IT TAKES AWARENESS, COMMITMENT AND
INTENTIONAL PRACTICE.
Numbers Revealed
Only 10% of Sustained Happiness is....
Attributed to Circumstances
Numbers Revealed…..
About 50% of Sustained Happiness is
Attributed to Personal Set-Point
The 40% Rule
The rest is within our power to
impact….40% of intentional
activity!
• Sonja Lyubomirsky (“The How of Happiness – a Scientific
Approach to Getting the Life You Want”)
Happiness: Not a Condition
….It’s a Competency
“Mojo”… Happiness…
AWARENESS + Intentional Action
1. Self Awareness: Know what makes you tick; what ticks
you off; and what leaves you flat (tick-less:)
– Fizzle, frazzle, fire!
2. Action/Habits: Develop strategies to manage/reduce
blahs and raise happiness
Btw: this is all within the (emotional intelligence) array of
competencies
STRATEGIES
BLAH BUSTERS
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MOJO BUILDERS
GUIDING PRINCIPLES
1. Take Ownership
2. Pay Attention:
1. What inspires you (fire)
2. What leaves you flat (fizzle)
3. What frazzles you (frazzle)
3. Create a Plan
4. For work and after work (they play off each other)
5. Adjust, practice…..try different things out.
6. Be Accountable
#1 Challenge Your Fear
FEAR: False Evidence Appearing Real…
TAKE A REALITY CHECK:
• Where are you amplifying fears/concerns?
• How are you discerning….what is real and what is not?
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News headlines
Rumours
Run away imagination
Other
#2 Powerless or Empowered?
Powerless? Or Empowered?
• Discern what you can control and what you can not
control.
– Circumstances?
– Your response?
• Take action on what you can control:
– Preparation – for possible risks
– Mitigate risk where you can
– Challenge assumptions/perceptions, etc.
#3 Perspective
Observe/Notice…..take responsibility for your
thoughts/reaction/response.
Half full or empty?
Perspective….
Donut or hole?
#4 Practise Gratitude…
Actively engage in ‘noticing’ and appreciating what’s
right and good – and expressing appreciation.
Awareness activities:
Gratitude journal
Making lists
Reflection time
Conversation
Other
Gratitude cont’d…
Express Gratitude and Appreciation to others
#5 Practise Optimism (a skill)
…Not a Condition….it is a Competency.
• Challenge limiting beliefs
• Find bright side (trite but true)
• I’m looking forward to ___________
– Create new goals and activities if you have trouble completing
that sentence.
• Actively remember your strengths, resources, assets,
etc.
• Celebrate your successes, joys – large and small!
Try this: Peak Moments
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Peak Moment Exercise…..
1.Increase Self
Awareness
2.Endorphin
Boost!!
Endorphins au natural!
GIVE YOUR MIND A POSITIVE CHARGE….
Positive Thinking: Gratitude + Optimism…..
• Endorphins – stimulated parasympathetic system
#6: Exercise!
Another Endorphin boost!
Get to the Gym…… or Walk your dog even if you don’t
have one!
#7 Create Meaningful Goals
Bored?
• Choose activities that engage your strengths; passions;
values
• Make sure they are meaningful –avoid ‘should’ goals
• Small goals, big goals…..any size can fit.
• Work, personal, volunteer
“I always wanted to…”
“Wouldn’t it be neat to learn….”
#8: Life After Work
That ‘Charge’ that keeps on giving….
Another plug for balance….what you do after work will
make a difference at work.
#9: Hang Out With Positive People
Survey says……happiness is contagious!
#10 Give to Others….
GIVE!
…Volunteer, philanthropy, informal/formal
#11 Lighten up
• Laugh (laughter yoga?)
• Social activities at work (pot luck lunch?)
• Other?
Pick at Least One Thing…
1. Declare it (to self then to others)
2. Create a plan
3. Get the support (friends, family, professional
coaching, other tbd)
4. Create conditions success
5. Accountability
6. Enjoy!!!
For More….
• CICA “Ask the Coach”
– Archives – more detailed articles on some of these ideas
– Blog: www.TGIMworklife.com
• BOOKS:
– The How of Happiness (Sonja Lyubomirsky)
– Strengths Finder (Tom Rath)
– More…..
• www.BigCheese-Coaching.com/
www.tgimworklife.com
– [email protected] or 416-631-7437