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RELATIONSHIPS:
Family and Friends
There are many types of relationships but they can be broken into 2
main categories, Family and Friends:
Friends
Family
Primary
Secondary
Extended
Friends
Best Friends
Acquaintances
Examples of relationships
Mother/Father – Brother/Sister – Grandmother/Grandfather
Stepparents – step brothers/sisters – half brothers/sisters
Aunts/uncles – nephews/nieces - cousins – in laws – Great Grandparents –
friends – acquaintances – Best friends – Boyfriends/girl friends –
Fiance’ - Classmates – team mates – neighbors – colleagues – mentors –
Coach – teacher – pastor/religious leader – doctor – psychologist –
accountant – contractor/butcher/barber/etc – pets
No matter the type of relationship…..
Trust
Honesty
7 Things
needed for
any
relationship
to succeed
Loyalty
Communication
Friendship
Communicating with Others
Communication means to give AND receive
information
Effective communication is one of the 3
foundation pieces of a healthy/successful
relationship
It requires you to express yourself clearly
and understand others.
4/5 or 80 % of communication is done WITHOUT
WORDS
Communicating with Others
(cont’d.)
There are two main types of communication:
verbal and nonverbal.
Verbal communication means using words to
express yourself, either in speaking, typing, or
writing
Nonverbal communication is without
words….gestures, body language, posture, and
facila expressions
Friendship
"A friend is one who walks in when others walk out" -Walter Winchell
Defined: Act of being attached to someone by affection,
esteem or as a companion and in a variety of ways --Merriam Webster
All relationships require that you have some level of
friendship..you have to like being around the person
right?
Honesty
You have to tell the truth. If you lie, you end
up destroying relationships because with
out honesty. You can not build a relationship
built on truth.
Plus no matter what, you eventually get
caught in the lie and that hurts worse than
the truth to people that love you
Trust
Placing dependence on another person. There is a
certain amount of trust shared in any relationship but
without honesty and communication, it is lost. Trust
takes a while to build up, it doesn’t happen
overnight..but 1 lie can make it come crashing down.
Trust means that NO MATTER WHAT, your
relationships are there for you and will try not to hurt
you emotionally* (in the exception of break ups)
Loyalty
Means staying true to a group or team or
family. Also means always being there to
help, as part of a group, in terms of
relationships and in times of need.
Loyalty
2 teens were sitting and talking and 1 teen says “my Dad hit me with his belt last
night after he was done drinking because the Eagles lost..but don’t tell
anyone”. IS the teen being a loyal friend if she tells the school counselor or a
snitch?
2 other teens are in school hanging out when one of them pulls out a gun.
Should the other teen tell someone?
A girl “runs away” with her boy friend. On her facebook, She leaves a coded
message that a few of her friends understand but that her parents/police
can’t interpret. Should her friends tell her parents or let her go with her boy
friend.
Which friend in the 3 scenarios above is being loyal? The ones that stay quiet or
the ones that talk?
LOVE
Every relationship has a certain amount of love, which is
the world’s most powerful emotion. However, there
are different kinds and different levels. Love for a
husband/wife may be just as strong as love for a
mother/father but it is most certainly different. John
Lennon said “all you need is love”. That isn’t true
because without Trust, Loyalty, Communication,
Honesty and Friendship, Love doesn’t matter and can’t
be truly given
RESPECT
Almost the same as love…needs a whole lot of
other stuff to happen to be truly given. Not
only does it need the other 6 items for
successful relationships, but it also needs a
history of events that demonstrated positive
actions. Kinds of respect include respect of
elders, nation, leaders, friends, etc.
Family RELATIONSHIPS specifically
Your family helps or should help you by fulfilling
your:
 Physical needs – Families provide the basic needs for
survival: food, clothing, and shelter.
 Intellectual needs – Families teach children everyday
tasks, from tying shoes to speaking languages.
 Emotional needs – Families provide a base of
emotional security so that each member can feel
accepted, supported, and loved.
 Social needs – Families teach the skills their
members need to get along with others and be
productive members of the community.
Your Family and Your Health
Your family also helps you develop your
values as you grow into adulthood.
The values you learn from your family
members may be based on:
 Family history
 Traditions
 Religious beliefs
Coping with Changes and
Challenges
Family life involves changes and challenges.
Some changes are happy occasions, but at
times families have to cope with difficult
situations.
Difficult changes may cause stress, which can
have a negative effect on family health.
Coping with Changes and
Challenges (cont’d.)
Some common family challenges include the
following:
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Moving
Job Loss
Separation and Divorce
Illness or Injury
Death, Grieving, and Loss
Others may include: a family member on drugs or
who drinks excessive alcohol, domestic violence
towards spouse or children, or a parent in prison.
Strengthening Family Relationships
Balancing various roles and responsibilities
in a family can cause some stress.
However, when family members work
together, they can manage stress and keep
family bonds strong.
Respect, understanding, and humor are
good qualities that help strengthen family
bonds.
Strengthening Family Relationships
(cont’d.)
Here are some strategies for teens to
strengthen the family:
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Show appreciation.
Communicate ideas, information, and feelings.
Spend quality time together.
Appreciate your grandparents and other extended
family members.
Respect family members’ privacy.
Show responsibility.
Share family resources.
Follow family guidelines NO MATTER WHAT
Be responsible for your own things such as cleaning
up after yourself, following curfews, getting school
work done.
Conclusion
Relationships are not easy…they need to be worked at.
People change and so do their needs. Any type of
relationship needs 7 things to be successful. The
family relationship should be the strongest ones in
your life here on Earth and teens need to take
responsibility to help keep them strong