Transcript Ch 2 Lesson 1 Relationships

Chapter 2 Relationships &
Choosing Abstinence
Lesson 1 Relationships &
Communication
You’ll learn to…
• Evaluate the effects of family
relationships on physical,
mental/emotional, and social health
• Evaluate the positive & negative effects
of relationships with peers
• Demonstrate communication skills that
build & maintain healthy relationships
Group Warm-Up
• In your groups discuss and list the
following:
• Why is it important to have
communication in any relationship?
• Give examples…
Family
Steven Lento’s
family photo 10
years after
graduation… That’s
Steven Jr.!
Functions of a healthy family
• Families help provide basic
physical needs. Ex. food,
shelter, care when ill.
• Families provide emotional
support.
• Families provide structure for
our lives. Ex. organize
activities and schedule times.
(families look out for your
best interest).
Brooke & Family
20 years after graduation!
Family & Friends
• Family is the basic unit of
society.
• Besides ensuring food,
clothing, and shelter,
family provides guidance
to help children learn to
function in society.
• Families teach us our
values.
Family portrait of
Dominic’s Family
Values
• Values- the beliefs &
standards of conduct
that are important to a
person
• Values are also instilled
through cultural
heritage, religious
beliefs, and family
traditions
• You apply your values to
the decisions that you
make everyday.
Group Work
• Discuss and list how different cultures
influence a person’s values and beliefs.
• Give specific examples…
Friends
• As we mature we
meet people outside
our families & we
make friends
• Friends who share
your interests and
values can be a
source of positive
peer pressure
Relationships in Adolescent
Years
• Forming mature
relationships with your
peers is important for
your social health
• Being involved in a
variety of school,
religious, and
community activities
can promote your
mental/emotional and
social growth.
Lucas getting ready for
GCIT’s 10 year Reunion
Peer Pressure
• As you develop relationships
(individual/groups) you
probably experience peer
pressure.
• Peer pressure is the influence
that people your age may have
on you
• Peer pressure can be positive or
negative
• GIVE ME AN EXAMPLE OF
BOTH?
Peer pressure continued…
• Peer pressure is especially influential for
adolescents with low self-esteem.
• In order to feel a sense of belonging,
they may engage in high-risk behaviors
or activities that go against their values.
Zane
Corey
Jeffery
DJ.
Tyler
Class of 2016 10 yrs later… with matching mullets!
Dating
• Considered an important social
activity
• Group dates offer teens
opportunities to interact with a
variety of people, they may feel
less nervous.
• Steady dating is when two
people date each other
exclusively.
Group Activity- Dating &
Different Cultures
• Different cultures have different customs and
beliefs when it comes to dating.
• Within your groups discuss and list ways
Americans date. Do teens still date? And if so,
what is the typical teen date today?
• What would your “ideal” date be?
Dating Customs Around the World
Afghanistan
• Dating is rare in Afghanistan because most marriages are arranged by parents,
and schools are separate for boys and girls. The opportunities to meet are
rare. Girls have a 7:00 P.M. curfew, while boys have an 11:00 P.M. curfew.
Australia
• Most teens go out in large groups and don't pair off until they are 18 or 19
years old in Australia. Girls often ask out boys and pay for the date, too.
Couples often go to dinner parties, barbecues, or the beach.
Central and South America
• Dating is not allowed until the age of 15 here. When of age, most boys and
girls date in large groups, going out together to weekend dance parties.
When not dancing, teens gather at local clubs to eat and talk.
Europe
• Dating is usually a group event in Europe. In Finland, as many as 30 teens
may attend a movie together. Slumber parties are common in Italy and
Switzerland, where teens gather for parties at a home and sleep there when
the party is over.
More Dating Customs Around the World
• In Spain teens join a pandilla, a club or a group of friends with the same
interests, like cycling or hiking. Dating is done one-to-one and both girls
and boys ask each other out and split the cost of the evening's
entertainment.
• In Russia dates take place at dances or at clubs where teens eat or chat with
friends. In small towns, teens meet in the streets downtown or gather around
a fountain.
Iran
• It is against the law to date in Iran. Teens are separated until they are of
marrying age, then their families introduce them to each other and
sometimes a courtship follows.
Japan and Korea
• In Japan and Korea, most high school students don't date or go to parties,
but spend their time studying instead. Dating begins in college, when only
boys do the asking and pay for the dates.
Communication
• The process through which
you send messages to and
receive messages from
others—is essential to any
relationship
• Good communication skills
will help you keep
relationships healthy and
mature
Good Communication Skills
Means clearly expressing your feelings, thoughts,
ideas, and expectations.
1. Use “I” messages to avoid placing blame.
2. Maintain a polite tone in your voice.
3. Speak directly to the person.
4. Provide a clear, organized message that states
the situation.
5. Body language should match your words.
Good Listening Skills
Good listening skills means listening to
what others say. Guidelines for being a
good listener:
1. Give your full attention to the person
speaking.
2. Focus on the speaker’s message.
3. Indicate your interest.
4. Remember what the speaker had said.
5. Use positive body language.
Communication Activity 1Listen To Me!
Communication Activity 2- Drawing
Improves Communication Skills
Conflict
• Any disagreement,
struggle, or fight.
• Most common reasons
for a conflict include a
lack of communication
• When conflicts or
disagreements occur
relying on T.A.L.K
strategy will help reach a
peaceful resolution.
T.A.L.K
• T- Take time out
• A- Allow each person to express his/her
opinion uninterrupted
• L- Let each person take turns to ask
questions and clarify any statements
• K- Keep brainstorming to find a good
solution
Conflict & Dating
• Becoming skilled at
“choosing your battles,” or
deciding when it is
worthwhile to take, can
help you avoid unnecessary
conflict.
• Good communication is
especially important in
dating relationships.
• Express yourselves honestly
and listen to what the other
person is saying.
Healthy vs Unhealthy
Relationships
GCIT 2016 Senior Prom Court!
Top: Colin, Ryan , Reilly, Sal
Nice flow, fellas!
Bottom: Jill, Sophia, Taylor, Daniellr
Solid smile, Taylor!
Healthy relationships have the
following characteristics:
• Talking about your feelings
• Respecting date’s friends and activities
• Considering the other person’s opinions and
feelings
• Respecting differences in other persons
• Stating differences of opinion
• Having an equal say in the relationship
• Figuring out a solution that is good for both
of you.
KNOW THE SIGNS:
Unhealthy relationships have the
following characteristics:
• Believing one sex has more rights that
the other
• Shouting or yelling when you are angry
at your date
• Using the silent treatment
• Pestering your date until you get what
you want
• Pouting to get what you want.
KNOW THE SIGNS:
Abusive relationships have the
following characteristics:
• Dominating and controlling your date’s other
relationships/friends and activities
• Name calling (putdowns)
• Threatening harm
• Intimidating be hitting or destroying property
• Being extremely jealous and possessive of date
• Pushing, hitting, restraining or holding your date
against his/her will
• Forcing sexual touching or intercourse.
Review Questions
1. Evaluate ways your parents, guardians,
and other family members contribute to
physical and mental/emotional health
and help you establish healthy
relationships.
2. Define the term peer pressure and
evaluate the positive & negative effects
of relationships with peers.
Review Questions continued…
3. List three benefits of dating.
4. Explain & demonstrate the importance
of using good communication skills in
building & maintaining healthy
relationships. Give two examples.
5. Make a list of positive ways you can
develop healthy relationships with your
peers. Describe specific actions you can
take to become a good friend.