COMMUNICATION IN EVERYDAY LIFE
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COMMUNICATION IN
EVERYDAY LIFE
The Conditions for
Effective Communication
Lecture 13c
COMMUNICATION EFFECTIVNESS:
SKILLS ABOUT SKILLS
In
additon to being
MINDFUL, FLEXIBLE, METACOMMUNICATORS
To be truly effective we need the way we
think – to shift our mindset – shift the
taken-for-granted assumptions, ideas and
attitudes with which we usually approach
situations and other people – to the
Appreciative mind set
A Mind Set of Appreciation
A mind set of appreciation involves three things
Seeking full understanding – “I appreciate your
situation” requires Mindfulness – paying attention.
Valuing and honouring the other – “I appreciate
you.”
The third meaning of appreciate – “things
appreciate in value” – we translate this as a
commitment on our part to add value in the
moment to increase our own and the other’s sense
of worth.
Appreciative Mind Set and Talk
And in terms of adding value to a situation –
these first two aspects of the Appreciation
certainly help – but, in addition, what if we
also chose to see the value in every situation
- see what’s working instead of focus on
what’s failing.
To see the useful, desirable or positive
aspects of every situation
To speak in ways that call these out in the
other
Talking Appreciatively and
Effectively:
The Humanistic Model of Communication
A HUMANISTIC MODEL OF
INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
HUMANISTIC MODEL CONSIDERS
GENERAL, IDEAL QUALITIES:
FIVE
1. OPENNESS
BILATERAL/RECIPROCAL
ABILITY TO REACT HONESTLY TO MESSAGES
OWNING OF THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS
2. EMPATHY
TO FEEL AND EXPERIENCE FROM OTHER’S VIEWPOINT
A HUMANISTIC MODEL OF
INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
3. SUPPORTIVENESS:
3A. DESCRIPTION vs. JUDGMENT
DESCRIBE WHAT HAPPENED - DON’T EVALUATE
DESCRIBE HOW YOU FEEL - DON’T BLAME
EXPLAIN HOW THIS RELATES TO THE OTHER PERSON
3B. PROVISIONALISM vs. CERTAINTY
HAVING, OPEN-MINDED ATTITUDE
WILLINGNESS TO HEAR OPPOSING VIEWS
A HUMANISTIC MODEL OF
INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS
4. POSITIVENESS:
POSITIVE ATTITUDE vs. CRITICAL ATTITUDE
OPEN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT vs. SILENCE
5. EQUALITY:
GIVE OTHER PERSON UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD
vs. ACTING IN A SUPERIOR WAY
SHARING SPEAKING AND LISTENING - SHOWING RESPECT
BY TAKING TURNS
SOLVING PROBLEMS vs. WINNING