Interpersonal Relationships
Download
Report
Transcript Interpersonal Relationships
Relationships
Unit
Self-esteem
Your self-esteem
: measure of how much you value, respect,
and feel confident about yourself
High self-esteem occurs when certain emotional need
are met
– knowing who you are
– needs are met, a person feel safe
– people feel a sense of belonging
– you work to achieve what is important
– believing you deserve love, respect, an
attention
Risk of low Self-Esteem
Feels insecure
Disrespects self
and others
Vulnerable to peer
pressure
Doesn’t feel
valuable
Feels depressed
Fears failure
Uses drugs and
alcohol
Feels pessimistic
Behaves
destructively
Building Self-Esteem
– everyone is different
Positive self-talk
– learn to take criticism
Act with integrity
: doing what one knows is right
Learn a
Reach out to
Choose supportive friends
– decide to trust rather than to worry
Be assertive
: speaking up for yourself
without offending others
Personal Values
Your values
: beliefs and feelings about how
important someone or something is to you
Values help you choose right
– based on your parents values
– start to develop your own values,
as a result of personal experiences
What influences your values?
Families
Religious organizations
Television and media
Friends
Organized groups – FFA, Boy Scouts,
etc.
Rank your values
Religion
Family
Friends
Truth
Honesty
Recognition
Independence &
freedom
Creativity
Education
Work ethic
Adventure
Knowledge
Power
Money or wealth
Security
Beauty
Communication
What is communication?
: the exchange of
information, thoughts, and feelings
3 elements
Message
Message
Understandable
How do people communicate?
: uses spoken
or written words
– words trigger emotions
– upbeat, downbeat, or
sarcastic
- will convey a message
– look at how it may
appear to someone else
How do people
communicate? Cont.
: messages
are sent in a visible way
: using facial
expressions and movements of the head,
arms, hands, and body to convey
messages
– your clothing will say a lot
about you
– physical appearance and
personal hygiene
Barriers to Communication
Message sender
Do not be
Message receiver
Not
Giving
Interpretation of the
Wandering
Hearing only what
Fatigue – physical or mental
Barriers to Communication
cont.
Message
People’s perceptions
: taking from a message
only what catches a person's attention
Several messages at one time
: something, such as a noise
or action, that makes it hard to pay attention
– verbal and nonverbal
to not convey the same message
Speaker talks too long –
Learning to Communicate
Effectively
Levels of communication
Small
Share
Share
Share
Peak communication – high point of
Learning to Communicate
Effectively cont.
Attitudes for effective communication
Sense of
•
– free of assumptions,
criticisms, and speculations
•
– blames the person
you are talking to
– a person can set aside
personal concerns and assume another’s
point of view
Skills for Effective
Communication
Appropriate time and place
Straight
: message receiver hears
what is said and supplies nonverbal and verbal
reactions
: verbal listeners responses
: restating the main
message, the listener can determine whether or
not the message received was accurate
The Power of Communication
Communication is key to getting
Good communication is a skill
and will to try –
you can improve
Relationships with
Family
Family Relationships are
Important
Families teach us
How to
What being
Who we
Who we
What feelings accepted or rejected is
like
Families need time
Types of Families
: consists of family in
which a mother, father, and one or more
biological or adopted children live together
– biological mother
or father, step-parent, and children of one
or both parents
Increase because of divorces
Types of Families cont.
– single parent
and children
Divorce or widowed
Most headed by mother
: people who are
outside the nuclear family but are related to
Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins
Types of Families cont.
– adopting a child
or giving a child up for adoption – will be a
part of a new nuclear family
– temporary family
while a child is waiting to be adopted
Characteristics of Health
Families
Positive communication strengthens the family
unit
Taught by the parents
Refraining form verbally or physically hurting
another person
Honoring each other privacy
Being dedicated to recognizing and achieving
what is best for family members
Characteristics of Health
Families cont
Family members encourage, strengthen,
and show compassion toward each other
Building
Require much work from members of the
family
Coping with Family Problems
All family members need to participate in solving
a problem
Each member will benefit if the problems are
resolved as soon as possible
: counseling
discussions that are led by a third party to
resolve conflict among the family members
Can give another perspective
Relationships with
Friends
Types of Peer Relationships
Friendships
- peers with whom
you feel socially connected.
- relationship with
a member of the opposite gender in which
there is affection, but no sexual activity
Types of Peer Relationships
cont.
: a small, narrow circle of
friends, usually with similar backgrounds or
tastes, that excludes people they view as
outsiders.
: a negative feelings toward
someone or something that is based not on
experience but, rather, on stereotypes
: exaggerated and
oversimplified belief about an entire group of
people such as ethnic group, religious group,
or certain gender
Types of Peer Relationships
cont.
: exaggerated feelings of
passion for another person.
Dating plays a very big part in growing
processes of relationship
Peer Pressure
: The control and
influence people your age may have over
you.
: sneaky or dishonest
way to control or influence others
Responding to Negative
Peer Pressure
: giving up, giving in, or
backing down without standing up for your
own rights and needs
: overly forceful,
pushy, hostile, or otherwise attacking in
approach
: standing up for your
own rights in firm but positive ways
Refusal Skills
: techniques and
strategies that help you say no effectively
when faced with something that you do not
want to do or is against your values
State your position
Suggest
to the behavior
being proposed
Back up your words
Dating
Dating Patterns
Functions of dating
Learn to evaluate
Aware of demands and
Learn how to get along with others
Informal group dating
: more emphasis on
groups of people than on couples
“Hanging out”
Small to large groups
May just get together or may plan ahead
Dating Patterns cont.
Formal Pair Dating
: dating several people
at the same time with no long-term
commitment to one person.
• “See each other”
• May only last one date or it may continue
: dating only one person
for a period of time
• “Going Out”
• Share decision making, express feeling honestly,
and develop good communication patterns
Types of Love
: strong feeling of
personal attachment between friends or
family members; tender and
compassionate affection shared between
two people
Positive types
: total communication and
commitment between two people.
• Strive toward shared thoughts, feelings,
attitudes, ambitions hopes, and interest
Types of Love cont.
Positive love cont.
: makes people feel
warm, secure, and cheerful
: feelings of mutual
respect and understanding
• Neither passionate and consuming nor hostile
and hurting
Types of Love cont.
Negative Types
: jealous lover holds the
other person so tightly that the person is cut
off from other people
: vigorous, insistent, and
urgent
• Center on sexual relationship
: frequently raises its voice
in anger against the loved one
: unfulfilled love
Types of Love cont.
Negative Types cont.
: foolish extreme
attraction that does not last
Marriage
Healthy Marriage: Working
Together
: lifelong union
between a husband and a wife, who
develop an intimate relationship
Love
Commitment
Compromise
: state of
being emotionally connected to another
person
Look Before You Leap
Examining
Decision should be yours
Based on love, commitment, and careful thought
Cannot be based on just physical attraction
Emotional maturity will take time
Usually in middle twenties
Same level of education – have better chance
Look Before You Leap cont.
Need to have some things that are similar
It is ok to have some differences
Remember this is something you will have to live
with
: exist together in harmony
What do hey want in life – job, living, etc
Look Before You Leap cont.
Convictions
: something you believe strongly
and take very seriously
Religion
: partners come from different
religions
Family bonds are tight
Friends need not, or should not, be given up for
marriage
Do not resent the amount of time with friends
Look Before You Leap cont.
Discuss children before marriage
How many, and when
Interracial marriages
: partners are of different races
Society is slow to accept
Different cultures, traditions, lifestyles, and even food
History men and women are in charge of different
things
Now men and women equally share responsibilities
Look Before You Leap cont.
Parents have your best interest in mind
Parental approval has one less hurdle to leap
Unbiased, but trained input by third party if there are
problems
Effort to get to know the other person before you marry,
you can find out whether marriages is right for you
Differences have a way of surfacing
The Engagement
: announced intention of
two people to marry one another
Average time
Gives time to plan wedding & to make
sure they are both ready to be married
Wedding
Can be simple to very extravagant
Many participate in religious
ceremonies
Signing of