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Psychology 301
Social Psychology
Lecture 19, Nov 6, 2008
Attraction and
Relationships
Instructor: Cherisse Seaton
Overview
 Concluding Group processes
 Cooperation and competition
 Communication and threat
 The need for affiliation
 I. Attraction
 Propinquity
 Reciprocal liking
 Similarity
 Physical attractiveness
 Physiological arousal
Current applications: Broader level
 Zimbardo interview
 “It’s not bad apples, it’s the barrel”
 Is the situation always that powerful?
 http://video.on.nytimes.com/index.jsp?fr_story=d3cee
846a166e3b7bad1e51843da3375feecde91
Roots of Conflict
 Conflict questions:
 Who has won (competition)?
 Who gets what (resource distribution)?
 Who is in charge (power struggles)?
 Who decides (decisional conflict)?
 Who do I like (personal conflict)?
Who gets what (resource distribution)?
 Evolutionary Basis?
 Are we biologically predispose to monitor the payoffs
we receive relative to others?
 E.g., Others are benefiting more from the same activity
Monkeys reject unequal pay
 Brosnan and de Waal (2003) – Nature, 425
Using Threat to Resolve Conflicts
 When caught in a conflict many of us are tempted to
use threats to get the other party to comply.
 E.g., Threaten children with punishment
 Research (Deutsch & Kraus, 1960, 1962) suggest that
threats are not an effective means of reducing conflict.
 Deutsch & Krauss Trucking Game
Effects of Communication
 Research suggests that communication:
 Can resolve conflict, if it fosters trust.
 Cannot resolve conflict, if it conveys threats.
 Negotiation is a form of communication between opposing sides
in a conflict in which:
 Offers and counteroffers are made.
 A solution occurs only when both parties agree.
 An integrative solution is a solution to a conflict whereby:
 The parties make trade-offs on issues according to their different
interests.
 Each side concedes the most on issues that are unimportant to it
but important to the other side.
Summary:
 Social dilemmas:
 Public good
 Mixed motive situations
 Factors that might increase cooperation:
 Change payoffs
 Group identity
 Communicate cooperative norms
Attraction and relationships
Readings for this section
 Aronson et al. Chapter 9
History in Psychology
 Psychological study of attraction & relationships
 Relatively new – last 30 years
 Primary interest in studying individual
 Many thought it non-scholarly work or impossible to
study scientifically
 Most work to date on initial attraction, not long term
relationships
What are the benefits of social bonds?
 Emotional benefits
 Being around others makes us happy
 Married people are happier
 Health benefits
 People who have many relationships live longer
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Relationships have a stronger impact on mortality than
smoking
 Social Support
 Spiegel et al. (1989)
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Breast cancer patients in support groups lived 18 months
longer than women in control groups
Strength of need for affiliation
 Top of list of things that lead to
happiness
 Lack of meaningful relationships
leads to feelings of:
 Loneliness
 Depression
 Worthlessness
 Alienation
 $6,500+ for hyper-realistic dolls
I. Attraction
First impressions?
 Several characteristics have been found
to play a role in “attraction”
 Some factors that influence whether
friendships or romantic relationships
will form are:
 1.) The propinquity (proximity) effect
 2.) Reciprocal liking
 3.) Similarity
 4.) Physical attractiveness
 5.) Physiological arousal
1.) The propinquity effect
 Definition:
 “The finding that the more we see and interact with
people, the more likely they are to become our friends”
 Physical distance
 Repeated exposure
 “For every person, there is a perfectly matched mate
somewhere in the world”?
1.) The propinquity effect
 Alphabetical seating arrangement
 Adjacent or nearly adjacent names
 Segal (1974)
 60 police recruits (strangers)
 6-week training
 Roommate & class seating
assigned alphabetically
 More than 50% named ‘best
friends’ with adjacent last names
1.) The propinquity effect
 Festinger, Schachter
& Back (1950)
 Couples in apartment
complexes
 65% same building
 Within building:
 41% next door
 22% two doors apart
 10% opposite ends
of hall
Why this effect?
 Functional distance
 Certain aspects of architectural design that make it
likely some people will come into contact with each
other more often than others
 E.g. location of rest room, stairs, elevator, or mailboxes.
 More likely to ‘run into each other’
 Familiarity
 The Mere Exposure Effect or the Frequency of Exposure
effect (Zajonc, 1970)
 “The finding that the more exposure we have to a
stimulus, the more apt we are to like it”
Frequency of Exposure
 Faces previously
viewed rated higher
 More attractive
 More trustworthy
 Etc
 Infants smiled more
at repeatedly exposed
faces (Brooks-Gunn &
Lewis, 1981)
 Exceptions:
 Neg. initial reaction
 Simple stimulus
Proximity in the computer age
 Online dating
 New field of study
 Overall, online dating seems
to be very similar to traditional
dating
 Positives:
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People feel more comfortable
disclosing information & selfdisclosure promotes closeness
The problem with online dating
 Frost et al. (2008)
 Goal: establish exactly how people
use currently well-established online
dating systems
 Surveyed of 132 internet daters
 Users of a profile-based online dating site
spent seven times as long screening other
people's profiles and sending emails than
they did actually interacting face-to-face on
real dates.
 As a result participants reported finding
online dating unsatisfying and aversive.
Internet use & Affiliation
(outside of virtual dating)
 The Internet connects us with people we might otherwise never
meet, but….
 Kraut et al. (2008)
 Longitudinal study:
 As use of the Internet increased:
 Feelings of social support decreased
 Number of social activities decreased
 Feelings of depression and loneliness increased
 National survey data:
 Only 22 percent of people made a new friend on the Internet,
and those friendships tend to be of low quality.
 Isolation increases with Internet use
2.) Reciprocal-Liking
 Definition:
 “When you like someone and that person also likes you”
 Discovery of another’s attraction
 We like those who like us
 Limitation:
 Must be sincere
3.) Similarity
 Definition:
 “Attraction to people who are like us”
 Match between:
 Interests/Activities
 Background
 Values
 Attitudes
 Physical attractiveness
 Personality
 Life style (smoking, morning / evening person)
 Age, race, education, religion,
 IQ, skills
 Most research indicates that similarity, not complimentarity, that
draws people together
Attitude similarity and attraction
Attraction toward other person (range = 2-14)
Byrne and Nelson (1965)
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The greater the
proportion of attitudes
subjects shared with the
stranger, the more
subjects liked him.
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Proportion of similar attitudes held by
other person
WHY SUCH A POWERFUL EFFECT
OF SIMILARITY?
 A) Cognitive Consistency
 We like ourselves, therefore we like those who are like us
 B) Social Comparison
 Validation of one’s beliefs
 C) Anticipate/predict
 Other’s behaviour (e.g., likes/dislikes, interests)
 D) They will like us also (reciprocal)
Matching of admirable
characteristics
 Most desirable personality traits in a romantic partner listed by
both men and women:
 Confidence, integrity, warmth, kindness, intelligence,
dependability, emotional stability, good sense of humor, loyalty,
and being affectionate
 However….
 Although people insist again and again these types of traits are the
most important to them, their actions don’t always indicate this is
the truth.
 Instead, physical attractiveness appears to be the single most
important predictor of ‘likeability’
4.) Physical attractiveness
 Walster (Hatfield) et al. (1966)
 Randomly matched 752 incoming students for blind
dates to a dance
 Students’ rated partner’s physical attractiveness and
desire to see their date again
 Only physical attractiveness predicted the desire to date
again (not intelligence, sincerity, sensitivity, etc.)
4.) Physical attractiveness
 Internet dating:
 Profiles & ‘click what you are looking for’
 e harmony – matched according to ‘personality’
 Yet creator of Plenty of Fish Markus Frind says “actions
speak louder than words”
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“For example, Susie says she wants a solid, stable man who
earns $100,000-plus but keeps clicking on profiles of musclebound bad boys.”
What is attractive?
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Widespread consensus
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Media influence
Evolutionary?
i. The “Mature” Baby Face
 ii. The Average Face
 iii. Your Style
 iv. Age
i. The “Mature” Baby Face
 Cunnigham (1986)
 Women
 Large eyes
 Prominent cheekbones
cheekbones
 Small chin
 Big smile
 Small nose
 Narrow cheeks
 High eyebrows
Men
Large eyes
Prominent
Large chin
Big smile
ii. The ‘Average’ Face
 Computer-digitized photos – technology ‘morphs’ photographs of
faces
 Why are averaged faces attractive?
 Symmetrical – extreme features
 Evolutionary theory (Etcoff, 99):
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“Survival of the Prettiest”
Symmetry = health (parasite resistance)
 Averaged face looks typical, or familiar
The Face of Tomorrow
iii. Your style
 Year book studies
 Cultural and ‘Style’ differences over
time
 Preference for faces that resemble
our own
 Morphed own face preferred
iv. Age
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Baize and Schroeder (1995): Personal Ads research
Coded ads (age, education, income)
Correlated with # of responses
Female Ads:
 Age
 Men:
 Age
 Education
 Height
 Income
Physical Attractiveness
 “What’s beautiful is good” Stereotype
 Advantages:
 Greater overall liking (best predictor of desire to date)
 More desirable character traits (e.g., sensitive, warm,
intelligent)
 Higher income
 Higher evaluation of work performance
 More lenient treatment in the legal system
 Better mental health
5. Arousal & Attraction
 Aronson et al (2007) suggest:
 Take date to scary movie, or
 Over a high bridge
 Misattribution of arousal
 Definition:

“The process whereby people make
mistaken inferences about what is
causing them to feel the way they do”
Arousal & Romantic Attraction
 Dutton & Aron (1974)
 Conditions:
 Capilano suspension bridge
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“Experimental bridge”
 Low bridge
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“Control bridge”
 Researcher approached single
men
Arousal & Romantic Attraction
 As they crossed:
 Questionnaire
 Gave phone number
 Male or female
researcher
Arousal & Romantic Attraction
Arousal & Romantic Attraction
% of Subjects Calling
Experimenter
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10
0
Low Bridge
Capilano Bridge
Where Done
Arousal & Romantic Attraction
 Meston &Frohlich (2003)
 Conceptual replication
 Roller coaster vs. non-threatening ride
 Same results
Problem?
 Can we really conclude from this study that arousal
lead to increased attraction?
 Correlation research
 Not likely that attraction lead to increased arousal, but…
 Could be some third variable contributing to the
relationship
 What are some possible third variables?
Evidence for Misattribution
of arousal
 Schachter and Singer (1962) - two factor theory of emotion
 Provoked physiological arousal with a shot of adrenaline.
 Some were told that there would be a physical reaction and
others told nothing.
 While they were waiting they had to fill out a questionnaire
that asks increasingly insulting questions.
 Confederate in the room acts angry or euphoric
 Participants who did not know what to expect mistakenly
assigned arousal to being angry or euphoric and they too
became angry or euphoric.
But does physiological arousal
increase attraction?
 Need for Affiliation
 Fear arouses temporary ‘attraction’ to others
 Schachter (1959)
 Manipulated anxiety level:
 Strong, painful shock
 Weak, innocuous shock
 Participants could chose to wait with another, or wait
alone
Results of Schachter’s “Dr. Zilstein study”
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# of Subjects
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Choose to wait
alone
Nonanxious
subjects
Anxious subjects
The results indicated that
anxious subjects chose to
wait with others more
than non-anxious subjects.
Choose to wait
with others
Also, a follow-up study
found that anxious people
preferred to wait with
other anxious people
rather than those who were
not anxious
Next class…
 **NO CLASS Tuesday Nov 11 (Remembrance Day)**
 First impression exercise
 II. Relationships
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Similarity
Self-disclosure
Satisfaction
Breaking up
 e harmony or Plenty of Fish??