Transcript Chapter 12
Chapter 12 Getting Along With Others Prepare • Relationships are formed more easily with others who are similar to us • Easier to interact with others who look as we do and share our race, ethnicity, and culture • Learning to accept diversity in your life is a crucial skill Organize • • • • • • • Arab Gay African-American Hispanic Female Disabled Overweight What comes to your mind when you think about these labels? Prejudice • Evaluations or judgments of members of a group, rather than individual characteristics • Maintained by stereotypes, i.e.beliefs or expectations about members of a group Consider • • • • • • Do men drive better than women? Are people on welfare lazy? Do homeless people want a job? Can white men jump? Do overweight individuals lack will power? What stereotypes do you believe? To develop cultural competence it is important to identify our prejudices and stereotypes and to fight them. Find Your Stereotype Quotient Check your stereotype quotient by completing Try It #2. Share your answers in small groups. Work • • • • • Study other cultures and customs Travel Participate in community service Don’t ignore people’s backgrounds Don’t make assumptions about who people are different • Accept differences Dealing with Classroom Diversity • Present opinions respectfully • Don’t assume you can understand other people’s experiences • Don’t expect people to be representatives of the group from which they belong-they can only speak for themselves • Meet students who are different from you • All opinions are important, even if views are in the minority. Speak Up! Evaluate-Ask Yourself • Do I make judgments about others based on external features? • Do my friends represent diversity? • Do I recognize that all people have the same basic needs? • Do I seek to understand the perspectives of others? Rethink • Relationships with others help us determine who we are • Attitudes and beliefs are shaped by others • Make friends by investing time in others • Reveal yourself-be honest • Show concern and caring • Friendship is a two-way street True Relationships • • • • • • Built on foundation of trust Commitment to honesty Mutual support Loyalty Acceptance Willingness to welcome change Communication in Relationships • Be a good listener – – – – – Stop talking Use eye contact and pay attention Reflective feedback-rephrase what speaker has said Ask questions Admit when you are distracted Loneliness • • • • • • • • Can occur in a crowd Become involved in campus activities Find a study partner You are not the only one who is lonely Socialize Get a job Loneliness is a temporary state Take a break from people when needed Conflicts in Relationships • Avoid using the word “you” – You don’t understand – You are being stubborn – How can you say that • Use “I” statements – I think we are misunderstanding each other – I feel that you are not listening – I worry when you do not call when you are going to be late Conflict Resolution • • • • • • • • Stop, look, and listen Defuse the argument Get personal Listen to real message Show that you are listening Acknowledge anger Ask for clarification Make requests explicit Life is not a zero-sum game - someone does not have to lose. Surviving Endings • • • • • • • Not all relationships last a lifetime Time eases pain Be active-keep busy Accept that endings are painful Talk to a friend Write down your feelings Speak to a professional P.O.W.E.R. Plan PREPARE Accept diversity as a valued part of your life ORGANIZE Explore your own prejudices and stereotypes WORK Develop cultural competence EVALUATE Check your progress in attaining cultural competence RETHINK Understand how your own racial, ethnic, and cultural background affects others Career Connections Cultural competence will help you respond to legal issues in the workplace, improve relationships with others, and increase performance on work teams. How Social Diversity and Relationships Affect the College Experience • Racial and ethic characteristics comprise diversity • Gender, sexual orientation, age, mental and physical characteristics also comprise diversity • Education, religion, income level Diversity Wheel Race, Ethnicity, and Culture • Race refers to physical differences that set one group apart from another • Ethnicity refers to shared national origins or culture • Culture refers to learned behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes of a group By mid-21st century, the percentage of people in the United States of African, Latin American, Asian, and Arabic ancestry will be greater than the percentage of those of Western European ancestry. College enrollments will mirror the shift in the diverse population. Cultural Competence • Knowledge of others’ customs, perspectives, background, and history • Provides basis for civic engagement • Permits us to act with civility toward others P.O.W.E.R. Plan • • • • Prepare: Accept diversity as a valued part of your life Organize: Explore your own prejudices and stereotypes Work: Develop cultural competence Evaluate: Check your progress in attaining cultural competence • Rethink: Understand how your own racial, ethic, and cultural background affects others Journal Topics Thinking about Race, Ethnicity, and Culture • Were race and ethnicity discussed in your family as you were growing up? In what ways? • Are you proud of your ethnicity? Why? • Think what it would be like to be a member of a racial group or ethnicity other than your own. In what ways would your childhood and adolescence have been different? How would you view the world differently?