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The Heart of Change
Stewardship over our heart!
Model of Human Behavior
Character
Matthew 15:18-19
James 4:1-2
Natural Heart
Sinful
Behavior
Our heart is our
command center
• Who we really are
• How we really think
• Idols of our heart
------------------------• Pride
• Money
• Health
• Peace
• Power
• Fear
• Marriage
• Kid’s behavior
What we do?
•My Speech
•My Actions
----------------•Disobedience
Why do we want what we want?
State of Being
“Emotions”
How we feel
about what’s
going on?
•Indicator lights
•Warning system
-------------------•Frustration
•Anxiety
•Anger
•Arrogance
•Depression
•Shame
•Guilt
•Burdens
•False sense of
happiness
Results
“Hardships”
End result of
what we really
want?
•Please myself
•Exalt myself
-----------------•Disorder
•Every evil thing
•Humiliated
•Brought low
•Experiential
death
Character
Natural Heart
Matthew 15:18-19
James 4:1-2
Model of Human Behavior
Behavior
“Sinful”
Our heart is our
command center
• Heart full of idols
• Who we really are
• How we really think
What we do?
•My Speech
•My Actions
State of Being
“Emotions”
How we feel
about what’s
going on?
•Indicator lights
•Warning system
Results
“Hardships”
End result of
what we really
want?
•Please myself
•Exalt myself
Character
Supernatural Heart
2 Corinthians 5:9
Behavior
“Christ-like”
Humble & undivided
heart
• Pleasing God
• Glorifying God
Progressive
sanctification
•Obedient Speech
•Obedient Actions
State of Being
“Emotions”
Results
“Life”
•Joy
•Peace
•Contentment
•Rest
•Patience
•Happiness
•God exalts this
person
•We grow
•We gain
Cause of conflict
• Pursuing the lusts of our hearts instead of
lusting after God.
• James 4:1 “what is the source of quarrels
among you? Is not the source your
pleasures that wage war in your
members?”
• What is the source of our behavior?
We do what we do
because we want what we
want!!
• Matthew 15:18-19
• “But the things that proceed out of the
mouth come from the heart, and those
defile the man. For out of the heart come
evil thoughts, murders, adulteries,
fornications, thefts, false witness,
slanders.”
James vs. Matthew
• James says one
thing- our behavior
comes from our
desires
• Matthew says another
– our behavior comes
from our hearts
• At a bare minimum we see that the heart
contains our desires
• The pleasures within that James refers to
are actually within the heart.
• The heart is the “control center” that
contains our desires that motivate us to do
what we do.
• Desires and pleasures as lusts
• Lusts = simply a strongly held desire
What are the intents of the heart?Desires
• Hebrews 4:12
• “For the word of God is living and active
and sharper than any two-edged sword,
and piercing as far as the division of soul
and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and
able to judge the thoughts and intentions
of the heart.”
Proverb 27:19
• “As water reflects a face, so a
man’s heart reflects the man.”
Summary of desires
• Circumstances to go a certain wayfrustrated and angry
• Loving spouse-Irritated – pleasure
• Physical appearance-Depressed-Look
good
• Obedient Children-anger-easier
• My boss has given me a deadlineAnxiety/fear-please my boss
• Ease/pleasure/wealth/praise of men
2 Criteria that helps us to see when
a legitimate desire becomes wrong:
• 1. Am I willing to sin in order to get what I
want? And
• 2. Do I respond sinfully when I do get
what I want?
Consequence of Conflict
• Setting ourselves in opposition to God with
our lusts
• Now when we are willing to sin to get what
we want or respond sinfully when we don’t
get what we want, the Bible uses some
strong terms for what is going on in our
heart.
• James 4:4
Why Adultery?
• What is physical adultery?
• What is spiritual adultery?
Questions:
• Why do you think the first commandment
was, “Thou shall not have no other Gods
before me?”
• Why do you think we use the term
idolatry?
• How are we really different from OT
idolatry?
• What is friendship with the world?
Serious terms!
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IDOLATRY
ADULTERY
ENEMY
HOSTILITY
• “The human spirit that dwells in you envies
intensely”
• You will always be lusting!
• You just have two choices to lust after– God or something else.
– “just two choices on the shelf, pleasing God or
pleasing self”
It Get’s worse!
• James 4:6
• “But He gives a greater grace. Therefore
it says, God is opposed to the proud, but
gives grace to the humble.”
Why does James introduce Pride?
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Self exaltation
This kind of heart is lusting of people
Things as to serve self
As if everything exists to serve me/self.
At the root of all this is pride!
• What does this verse say God will do
to those who exalt themselves?
– Oppose
– Actively stand in opposition
– Ultimately humiliate
– “a humble man can never be humiliated”
Cure for Conflict
• Humbling ourselves to mold our desires to
be more like God’s
How do we humble ourselves?
• Submit –”Get yourself under God”
• -CHANGE MY ATTITUDE, MY THINKING
• Resist the Devil – resist the satanic
• Draw near – to inquire of God
• Cleanse your hands – confession process
How do we deal with Idols of the
heart?
• Consider the following scenario:
• You are an advertising specialist and you
are going to make an advertising pitch to a
major client. If the client likes your
proposal, this will mean that you will get a
multimillion-dollar project – the biggest one
of your life. And this will mean an
incredible boost in your income.
• If the client doesn’t like it you will lose a
multi-million dollar project. You want this
project really bad. However, the meeting
is scheduled at noon, it’s now 10 til noon,
and you are still 20 miles away and
haven’t moved in traffic for 20 minutes.
You respond something like this…(looking
at watch constantly, punching radio
buttons incessantly, throwing hands up
• in air constantly..) “I can’t believe this is
happening, just when I’m about to make
the biggest sale of my life. Look! Will you
look at that! Those construction workers
are just standing around! At least if you
going to funnel two lanes of traffic into
one, could you look like you’re doing it for
a reason? Those stupid dept of
transportation workers. Maybe I’ll try to
call and tell my clients I’m stuck in traffic..”
(pulls out cell phone and realizes battery is
dead) “Can you believe this!!!!??” (throws
cell phone across the car, as some one
indicates they want in front of you) “Look
at that guy, he’s trying to squeeze in front
of my car. NO YOU DON’T MAN, YOU’RE
NOT GOING TO GET IN FRONT OF
ME!!!!
Questions to ask myself
• What is my situation?
• How am I responding?
• What am I wanting that is so important to
me? What rules me?
• What does the Bible say about my
situation and my response?
Questions to ask myself
• What desires should rule me? What
should I be wanting?
• What are the possible consequences both
now and in eternity of please God?
• What should I do now?
The role that Deception plays
in stimulating idolatry
• Why do you want what you want?
• Gen 3:1-13
• What was the source of the fall according
to Gen 3:1; 3:13, I Tim 2:14
• Deception – believing there’s a better way
than God’s way.
• When the serpent said “Did God really
say….” what was he trying to do?
• Doubt!
• She doubted God’s goodness and ability
to bring consequences.
Why do you want what you want?
• Because were Deceivers and Doubters!
• We think there’s a better way!
• Deception vs. Truth
• Doubt vs. Faith
What did doubt lead to?
• Gen 3:6
• Desiring/Lust
• Remember the heart contains our desires
What did the desire lead to?
• End of Gen 3:6
• Disobedience/Sin
• James 1:14-16 says…..
What did Adam and Eve then
experience in verses 7,8,10?
• Distress
– Guilt
– Shame
– This became their state of being!
What did they do with that
experience?
• Diverting/Ducking
• Hide-cover up
• We become Master CoverErs
– Alcohol, Porn, Glutens……