Transcript ZAVOD PELIKAN – KARITAS The Pelikan Charity Institute

Family as sense of
community and development
not as a place for addiction
Helena Potočnik
Mateja Perše
ZAVOD PELIKAN – KARITAS
The Pelikan Charity Institute
The Pelikan Charity Institute
• Preliminary center for addicts
• Work with parents and relatives
• Individual motivational conversations
• Information group
• Group for those relatives whose addicted
child is in community
• Preventive programs
• Reintegration
Addiction as a picture of family
relationships
Monitoring and counselling for individual steps
leading to a turn in their thinking, behaviour
and acting within their family systems
Stage 1
The awareness of the addiction
Most common experiences in
those families
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Great distress, helplessness, anger, grief and fear
Guilt and accusations
Minimalize or deny the truth
Ignore their responsibility for the solution of the
problem
Shame, shutting themselves off and trying to hide
Fear of being cast aside
Manipulation is characteristic of all family
members’ activity
Co-dependency – “hyper – responsibility”
Crucial goals for the addict’s
relatives treatment in the group
• To establish a safe atmosphere in group and
opportunity for opening
• To give an opportunity to talk over all this
feelings, to be shown at them
• To get support and understanding
Stage 2
Accepting and solving the problem
Crucial steps by relations
• Accept having no control over the addiction
• Admit the powerlessness and the unmanageably
of the addiction
• Give up desires to be in control
• Give up feelings of responsibility for everything
• Accepting professional help
• Assessment process: they are not guilty but
responsible – separate their feelings from the
reality
Crucial goals for the addict’s
relatives treatment in the group
• To provide and raise awareness that their
personal transformation is of primary
importance
• Breaking through the denial
• Confrontation with the destructive compulsive
and repetitive behaviour
• Confrontation with individual’s resistance
• Ability of confrontation with the drug addict
in the light of different action
Crucial changes
• A positive influence on their child and other
family members
• Their own transformation
• Establishing and retaining respect
Stage 3
A full recovery can take place
Crucial goals for the addict’s
relatives treatment in the group
• Clarifying the attachment to each other and
co-dependent relationships
• Allowing to be vulnerable – learning to relax
the perfections
• Farewell to the control over everything
Crucial changes
To deal with the problems also at a personal or
partners level resolving problems such as the
fear of being rejected or of being treated
unequally in the partnership or making aware
of false bonds
Conclusion
• The basic aim is to re-establish the closeness
which allows genuineness in relationships
• To recognize and accept the fact that pain
makes our lives rich and in spite of temporal
lowdown brings upgrading and a deep sense
of fulfilment
Questions?