Transcript Talking with Youth

Preventing Teen Dating Abuse:
Engaging Boys, Girls and
Adults
Rus Ervin Funk, MSW
www.rusfunk.com
Use/Critique of Language
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“victim” and “survivor”
“batterer”
“violent relationships” (etc.)
“Date rape”
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Youth Development
 Rapid developmental growth
 Emotionally
 Physically
 Socially
 Concrete thinkers
 Tend to hold rigid gender stereotypes
 Shift in spheres of influence from parents to
peers (in US – check if is universal)
 Testing boundaries
 Sense of “self” and power
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Definitions
 Keep two definitions of
Dating/Domestic violence in mind at
all time
 Legal
 Feminist/”victim-centered”
Based on pattern of coercive control to
maintain power and control
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Power and Control Wheel
Note:
Physical
violence is not
necessary to
maintain the
P/C Wheel
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Dynamics of Youth who are
Abused
P/C wheel
 Exaggerate responsibility
 Self-Blame
 Minimize threat/harm
 Ambivalent response
 Asserting control
 Anger
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Dynamics of Abusive Youth
 Paradigm of Entitlement
 Getting to abuse
 Asserting control
 Imbalance of accountability
 Blame shifting
 They choose to
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Gendered Nature of Dating Abuse
 Girls and boys appear to hit each
other mutually but…
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How boys and girls hit
Why boys and girls hit
Boys and girls experiences of being hit
Sexual assault within relationships
Post relationship abuse
What boys say when they hit
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A Shift in Focus – to Prevent
 Prevention means to shift focus to
how it is that men and boys are
abusive.
 To advocate or provide services
means we need to know more about
how women, men are abused.
 To date, we’ve focused more on the
later.
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Moving Upstream
Preventing
Awareness
Treating Victims
Violence
Building
Intervening
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Foundations of Primary
Prevention
 Violence is complex & requires a
comprehensive approach
 Determinants of violence & safety must
be addressed
 Examine both risk factors and protective
factors
 Requires an integrated strategy
 Explore promotion
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The Public Health
Model
Disseminate
effective
strategies
Develop
and Test
Prevention
Strategies
Identify Risk
and Protective
Factors
Define the
Problem
Root Causes
 What puts youth at increased risk for
dating abuse?
But why…
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Risk and Protective Factors
ID risk factors
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For perpetration
For victimization
ID protective factors
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From perpetration
From victimization
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Risk & Protective Factors:
Keep in mind…
Risk Factors do not cause domestic
violence-they are factors that may be
present for some individuals
No single risk or protective factor can
predict a specific outcome or condition
All risk and protective factors are not
equal; it is not a one-to-one relationship
Addressing a single risk factor is not
enough
Identify Risk & Protective
Factors
What protects girls & women?
What increases their risk?
What prevents boys & men from
being abusive?
What increases their likelihood of
being abusive?
What are the modifiable factors?
What groups are most at risk?
An Ecological Model
Organizational (Practices)
Intrapersonal
(Attitudes)
Relational
(Behaviors)
Community (Norms)
Socio-Cultural
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(Customs, laws, beliefs)
Gendered Nature of Prevention
 Gendered nature of dating abuse
 Gendered understanding of and
relationship to violence
 Gendered understanding of and
relationship to D & SV
 Implications for our efforts
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Primary Prevention Efforts From An
Ecological Framework
Intrapersonal
Teen
girls
Teen
boys
Masculinity
& respect
Relational
Organizational
Community
Sociocultural
Train parents
to talk w/ girls
Infused
School
Curricula;
School
policies
“girl
power”
groups
“Valuing
women
and girls”
media
campaign
Training
parents to talk
w/ boys about
healthy dating
Infused
School
Curricula;
School
policies
“boys of
respect”
groups
“Choose
Respect”
media
campaign
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Spectrum of Prevention
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Working with Individuals
Promoting Community Education
Training Providers
Fostering Coalitions
Changing Organizational Practices
Influencing Policy
Grassroots Organizing
Ongoing evaluation
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Prevention Efforts with Boys
 What factors contribute to boys being
abusive?
 What efforts can we initiate to
prevent boys from being abusive?
 What efforts can we initiate that
promote boys being in healthy and
respectful relationships?
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Talking with Adolescent Boys
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Overcome defensiveness
Address myths
Increase victim-sympathy
Examine male response-abilities
 Don’t hurt women (or men) they’re dating
 Responding to friends who are abused
 Becoming an Ally (based on a bystander
approach)
 Becoming proactive
 Challenge Social norms
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Bystander Efforts
Need to be gendered too
Who are the bystanders?
Which adults could be allies as well?
How can adults model being allies?
How do youth decide who to “stand
by”?
 How do we move from bystanders to
allies?
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Changing Organizational
Policies and Practices
 Identify organizational practices
 Assess those practices
 Do the support your efforts
 To what degree
 Identify changes to be made
 Implement changes
 Evaluate efforts
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Community Organizing
 Overview of Social Capital
 What is the “community”?
 Clarify the community
 Define boundaries
 Create access
 How does community understand
dating abuse?
 Respond prevent
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Social Norms
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Define what is “normal”
Identify current social norms
Examine alternative social norms
Promote alternatives
Strengthen alternatives
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Social Forces that Contribute
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“Act like a man”
“Be a lady”
Ecological Framework
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“Be a MAN”
What’s Done
to Men
What Men
are Called
“Be a Man”
Be a Lady
What Women
are Called
What’s Done to
Women
“Act like a Lady!”
Promotion
 What are we promoting
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Gender respect
Nonviolent relationships
Leadership development
Communities that support the above
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Gender Respect
 What constitutes gender respect?
 How do youth know when they are
being treated with respect?
 How do youth know when they are
treating others with respect?
 How gender informs notions and
practices of respect.
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An Ecological Model
Organizational (Practices)
Intrapersonal
(Attitudes)
Relational
(Behaviors)
Community (Norms)
Socio-Cultural
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(Customs, laws, beliefs)
Healthy Relationships
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Elements of a healthy relationship
Defining these elements concretely
Putting this into practice
Creating social norms to support
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An Ecological Model
Organizational (Practices)
Intrapersonal
(Attitudes)
Relational
(Behaviors)
Community (Norms)
Socio-Cultural
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reserved
(Customs, laws, beliefs)
Educating – for Leadership
(Focus on the social problem
rather than the personal tragedy)
 Use of emergent Curriculum Design
 Engage youth as problem solvers
 Put into practice what they’re learning
as they’re learning
 Take action
Emergent Curriculum Design
Based on Frierian Educational Praxis
Grounded in prevention theory
Create a team of youth, staff and
parents who work together to create the
educational program that will be
provided to youth.
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E.C. Process
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Identify partner
Create team
Define focus
Brainstorm content
Develop curriculum from the content
Edit curriculum
Train facilitators
Implement curriculum
Evaluate
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Partnership Development
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Brainstorm partners
Create relationships
Discuss positive outcomes
Develop preventionist analysis
Explore funding
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Activities
 Dating Abuse awareness week activities
 Teen equality wheel – put into action and
practice
 Promoting youth abilities to challenge the
restrictions of gender and the lessons of
 Promoting youth leadership
 Addressing Dating Abuse
 Press Conferences
 Legislative Advocacy
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Thank-You!!!
Rus Ervin Funk
[email protected]
www.rusfunk.com
(502)494-9044
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