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MARRIED LIFE
April 15th: Crazy Love
April 22nd: Broken Vessels
April 29th: Friends or Lovers?
May 6th: The Devil Made Me Do It
May 13th: Prayer & Spiritual Intimacy
May 20th: Thunder & Lightning
May 27th: Mosquito Bites
June 3rd: Guest Speakers
June 10th: Learning to Love
I. WHY GET MARRIED?
I. WHY GET MARRIED?
Wedding Day…
I. WHY GET MARRIED?
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Marriage Makes You Live Longer
Marriage Increases Your Earning Power
Marriage Gives You A Platform To Build Your Bloodline
Marriage Prevents You From Dying Alone
Marriage Makes You More Attractive
Marriage Brings Financial Benefits
Marriage Means More Sex
Marriage Means Better Sex
Married People Are Happier
Marriage Makes You A Better Man (“AskMen” Magazine)
I. WHY GET MARRIED?
Do you believe a good marriage is an unfolding
process? Or a product you purchase?
Do you believe there is 1 person “right” for you?
What do you think of when you see a “happy”
couple? How did they get there?
Marriage goes against the odds – like swimming
upstream- in the storm- both ways…
Yet: most get married
I. WHY GET MARRIED?
Toughest assignment ever... Pledge heart,
soul, strength to her, over and again, all the
days of your life. Nothing will be harder.
Nothing will be richer. It can be done, and it
is worth it.
POINT 1: Marriage is fabulously hard...
For everyone
II. DESIRES OF THE HEART
What stories, songs, movies or moments have
wakened the deep desires of your heart?
What are your desires and dreams for the marriage?
Do you believe you can have the desires of your
heart today?
What if God could give you the desires of your
heart?
POINT 2: Change begins with desire
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
Do you remember your first big fight? Or, the
moment you knew “the honeymoon was over”?
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
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Has your marriage felt hard at times?
Did that shock you? Surprise you? Dishearten
you?
What has been your reaction to the
awkwardness of marriage?
When it becomes hard, we often think we
made a mistake or we blew it- has that
happened to you?
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
Women ask, "this what I hope for"
Men ask, "what is required of me?“
How are you and your spouse different?
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
“When asked his secret of love, being
married fifty-four years to the same
person, he said, "Ruth and I are happily
incompatible.“
Billy Graham
III. A SETUP FOR
CONFLICT
POINT 3a: We are fabulously different…
set up for conflict from the beginning…
and God has designed it this way (!?!?)
POINT 3b: Asking a marriage to
flourish without God is like asking a tree
to grow without sunshine
IV. ISSUES OF THE HEART
We all walk into marriage
with wounded hearts…
What are the “heart” issues of your
marriage?
IV. ISSUES OF THE HEART
Marriage is the sanctuary of the heart: you
have been entrusted with the heart of
another. Loving and defending this heart is a
your calling in marriage... As God loves and
defends your heart
IV. ISSUES OF THE HEART
2 Tasks in Our Marriages:
• Tending to or caring for wounded hearts
• Welcoming the shaping my heart
IV. ISSUES OF THE HEART
POINT 4: Missing issues of the heart in
a marriage is like rearranging deck
chairs on the titanic
V. PURPOSE OF
MARRIAGE
Confusion, misunderstanding,
disappointment, struggle in marriage is
usually a result of not understanding what
God is up to
V. PURPOSE OF
MARRIAGE
Without you, your spouse will not become the man or
woman that God intends him or her to be and the kingdom
of God will not advance as it is meant advance. Your spouse
plays the most vital role in your life. You play the most
critical role in your spouse’s life. No one will have a greater
impact on your spouse’s soul than you. No one has greater
access to your spouse’s heart than you. This is an enormous
honor.
Do you treat it as such? Do you treat your spouse as such?
Why not?
V. PURPOSE OF
MARRIAGE
Phil. 2
Eph. 5:15-33
God lures us into marriage, then uses it to
transform us
1. Companionship & 2. Sanctification
V. PURPOSE OF
MARRIAGE
God is going to use your marriage to get to
issues in you wants to address...
POINT 5: Happily ever after is centered
on character transformation
DO SOMETHING
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Write down your desires and dreams.
Is there a scene in a movie that captures what
you want in your marriage? What about the scene
grabs you?
What would you like to talk to your spouse
about?
Watch a movie together- one that you identify
with – that captures something of your heart’s
desire for your marriage
Look at your wedding pictures together – talk
about the time- notice the desires for your
marriage together you had then- Are they the
same?