Transcript I must avoid lust producing situations

ADULTERY IN THE HEART
Matthew 5:27-28
27 "You have heard that it was said to those
of old, 'You shall not commit adultery.' 28
But I say to you that whoever looks at a
woman to lust for her has already
committed adultery with her in his heart.
Nothing Good About Adultery
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Name one good thing about adultery
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Marriage better?
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Happier children?
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Adultery – wrecks homes, destroys lives,
harms children, ruins reputations
Today we are looking at the “almost” adultery –
adultery in the heart, mind and thought – but not
an actual act of fornication.
A problem of the heart
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Without physically touching anyone else, it is
possible to commit adultery.
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Sexting (Texting sexual messages)
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Phone sex
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Pornography
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Posting suggestive photos on Facebook
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Sending sexual photos from your phone
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Using video phones (Skype)
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Ogling people of the opposite sex
A problem of the heart
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Like many other sins – lust begins on the inside
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It will eventually work its way out
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This is a “heart” problem
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A powerful, very real problem
A Godly man falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where
he was supposed to be.
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2 Samuel 11:1 It
happened in the
spring of the year, at
the time when kings
go out to battle, that
David sent Joab and
his servants with him,
and all Israel; and
they destroyed the
people of Ammon and
besieged Rabbah.
But David remained
A Godly man falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where
he was supposed to be.
Step #2 – He looked at
something he shouldn't have
seen.
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2 Samuel 11:2 Then
it happened one
evening that David
arose from his bed
and walked on the
roof of the king's
house. And from the
roof he saw a woman
bathing, and the
woman was very
beautiful to behold.
A Godly man falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where
he was supposed to be.
Step #2 – He looked at
something he shouldn't have
seen.
Step #3 – He asked a
question he had no business
asking.
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2 Samuel 11:3 So
David sent and
inquired about the
woman. And
someone said, "Is this
not Bathsheba, the
daughter of Eliam, the
wife of Uriah the
Hittite?"
A Godly man falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where
he was supposed to be.
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Step #2 – He looked at
something he shouldn't have
seen.
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Step #3 – He asked a
question he had no business
asking.
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At first this sounds
innocent
The lust is well hidden
at this point
Outwardly – David
has done nothing
wrong
A Godly man falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where
he was supposed to be.
Step #2 – He looked at
something he shouldn't have
seen.
Step #3 – He asked a
question he had no business
asking.
Step #4 – He sought
something that wasn't his to
have.
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2 Samuel 11:4a
Then David sent
messengers, and took
her;
I am alone. She is alone.
God wants me to be
happy.
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No one will ever know.
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It is really her fault.
A Godly man falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where
he was supposed to be.
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Step #2 – He looked at
something he shouldn't have
seen.
Step #3 – He asked a
question he had no business
asking.
Step #4 – He sought
something that wasn't his to
have.
Step #5 – He did something
he never should have done.
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2 Samuel 11:4b and she
came to him, and he lay
with her, for she was
cleansed from her
impurity; and she
returned to her house
James 1:15 Then, when
desire has conceived, it
gives birth to sin; and
sin, when it is full-grown,
brings forth death.
three Decisions
(1) I must avoid lust producing situations
(1)This a personal choice – know your limits
(2)There is a line that you must not cross
(3)This means – TV shows I don't watch
(4) Psalm 101:3a I will set nothing wicked before my
eyes;
(5)Radio stations, movies, places, books, parties –
There are things I don't participate in.
three Decisions
(1) I must avoid lust producing situations
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1 Peter 4:3-4 3 For we have spent enough of
our past lifetime in doing the will of the
Gentiles--when we walked in lewdness, lusts,
drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and
abominable idolatries. 4 In regard to these,
they think it strange that you do not run with
them in the same flood of dissipation,
speaking evil of you.
Three Decisions
(1) I must avoid lust producing situations.
(2)I must avoid provoking lust in others
(1)Lasciviousness = Causing lust to be
produced in another (Galatians 5:19)
(2)Dress, wink, suggestive comments
(3)Sometimes we send out mixed messages
Three Decisions
(1) I must avoid lust producing situations.
(2)I must avoid provoking lust in others
(3)I must purposely choose purity
(1)Keep the ability to blush – Jeremiah 6:15a
Were they ashamed when they had committed
abomination? No! They were not at all
ashamed; Nor did they know how to blush.
(2)This decision must be made in ADVANCE.
Adultery
Physical adultery is a sin.
 Spiritual adultery is a sin.
 Adultery in the heart is also a sin.
 Proverbs 4:23 Keep your heart
with all diligence, For out of it
spring the issues of life.
 How is your heart today?
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